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Oh, I see. Again, though, that definitely won't be every woman's cutoff. Look around you. The average for an adult U.S. male isn't even 5'9". But most people wind up hooked up.
Will women who demand a taller man be eliminated...yes, but as I said, people eliminate eachother for all sorts of physical and other reasons. Both men and women do this. That's a given.
I don't know too much about dating apps as I haven't been on them, I did OLD when it was all sites.
No it’s not all but with old it’s definitely most who aren’t going for guys below 5’9 or so..So you have a small percentage who you even get past the height barrier with old then but it doesn’t mean that small percentage is gonna be attracted to you or that you check their other boxes it just means that small percentage didn’t dismiss you strictly off height..
So your options on old as a short dude is pretty slim.
No it’s not all but with old it’s definitely most who aren’t going for guys below 5’9 or so..So you have a small percentage who you even get past the height barrier with old then but it doesn’t mean that small percentage is gonna be attracted to you it just means that small percentage didn’t dismiss you strictly off height..
So your options of even getting a convo with old as a short dude is pretty slim.
Just admit, you're using height as an excuse for other shortcomings you have (i.e. shyness, lack of confidence, being unrealistic, etc). We all know height isn't a real problem when it comes to dating. Most of my buddies aren't even 5'8 and they have gorgeous wife's/girlfriends, and they aren't even that much to look at. If your theory of height were true, most of the population of men would still be virgins.
Do a small percentage of women prefer tall men, of course. But what women (and men) prefer is quite different than what they actually end up with.
If I could make you 6' tomorrow, do you think your dating woes would end?
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Just admit, you're using height as an excuse for other shortcomings you have (i.e. shyness, lack of confidence, being unrealistic, etc). We all know height isn't a real problem when it comes to dating. Most of my buddies aren't even 5'8 and they have gorgeous wife's/girlfriends, and they aren't even that much to look at. If your theory of height were true, most of the population of men would still be virgins.
Do a small percentage of women prefer tall men, of course. But what women (and men) prefer is quite different than what they actually end up with.
If I could make you 6' tomorrow, do you think your dating woes would end?
I've had co workers and bosses that were like 5'2" or 5'3" and married, not only married, but married to very good looking women. One of them, when we did a team photo, broke out a box to stand on... the box was included in the photo, he owned it and self deprecated about it. Didn't hold him back.
I don't know that they're commonly considered flaws, but I like smile lines. It seems that women find them to be at least annoying (on them) but I like them. I don't know if it's really accurate to say I like smile lines, but a disproportionate # of women I enjoy looking at have them.
Regarding things that are commonly thought to be flaws but which don't seem to stop men or women from finding partners, the look around test only tells a part of the story. Short men, tall women, bald men, small breasted women, or overweight people all seem to find partners based on observation. What we don't know based on observation is whether that person faced extra obstacles finding a partner, which they may have. And in many cases their own feelings about their perceived flaw(s) are an obstacle, and while it's easy to say that they should just get over those feelings, that can be quite difficult.
I'm about to turn 61 and I first noticed undeniable evidence that I was loosing my hair exactly 40 years ago. Right as a semester in school started I had my hair cut fairly short in an effort to de-emphasize the thinning. Going through my 20s rapidly balding wasn't a lot of fun, and it was a different issue than it is now. The only bald celebrities of any not were Yul Brenner, who was getting quite old, and Telly Savales, who was sort of a lovable clown. And a few black musicians, but as a skinny white kid from suburbia their influence on me was negligible. Now there are any # of bald male athletes, actors, musicians, and even a few politicians who clearly live full and successful lives, and yes, seem to have more than a few women admirers.
So I've had 4 decades to adjust to my bald head, and the times have changed to make that stigma less that it was in my youth, and at 60 + no one really cares. Now that's because being 60 with or without hair makes you pretty unsexy to most people, but whatever. The point is I'm really pretty good with my lack of hair, but it can still give me an unpleasant twinge.
When that women recently set up dates with 100 men as some kind of publicity stunt, and they all arrived expecting a one on one date only to find out they were there to "compete" for said date, she started screening out those men silly enough to stick around, and bald men were out, along with men under 5-10, men with beer bellies, and men whose ex's dumped them. Being 6-1 with a flat stomach and having dumped my immediate EX, I of course noted that bald guys were out, and I felt that twinge. It didn't ruin my day or even impede it in any way I'm aware of, but I could have done without the experience. I feel a little silly saying that, but I don't think I'm entirely unique. I'm sure well adjusted men of 5-6 or with a bit of a paunch were irritated for a moment or two before they remembered that we can't let that show. While that example resonated for me, I'm sure a story where a tall or overweight women is depicted as less appealing can give some women the "here we go again" kind of pause before she remembers to smile good naturedly.
I tend to think early hurts leave wounds that can open up again under the right, or wrong circumstances. Having a noticeable and culturally agreed upon flaw can cause a psychic wound, especially when we're young. I think many of us have such wounds, and most of us manage them, but they have to be managed and that takes energy and on the wrong day or in the wrong context some of us can be a little short on that energy and experience those old wounds like they just happened. Most of us cope better the second or second hundredth time we hear some unflattering news, but sometimes I'd rather have that one less thing to cope with. That means something.
OK I thought of one, although maybe it's not exactly a physical flaw but I do think it can fall into the category of "filter."
I can't stand it when a man feels the need to make a noise of approval whenever an attractive woman comes into view, on TV or in real life, whether it's a "Woo!" or an "Mmm, mmm, mm..." or a grunt or a full-on, "Whoa! Lord have mercy, check that out!"
I am not overly jealous or possessive and have even been known to point out attractive women to my boyfriend when we're out together. But I grew up around a grandfather who was infamous for his wandering eye and who never missed an opportunity to express his approval of a female form in his line of sight.
It's demoralizing.
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