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why do people prefer the opposite sex to have a massage?
there is a phrase in Turkey like that:
masaj bahane, okşanmak şahane.
it means:
the massage is an excuse, being rubbed is fantastic
but of course it's not that meaningful when it's translated LOL LOL
Who said that people always prefer to have the opposite sex massage them? A lot of people prefer the same sex to massage them. A lot of women also prefer a female gynecologist for the same reason.
Not to mention, the whole same sex/opposite sex dynamic goes out the window with a gay client or massage therapist.
Being sexual or not is about maintaining professionalism. It has nothing to do with the sex or sexual orientation of either the masseuse or the client.
Who said that people always prefer to have the opposite sex massage them? A lot of people prefer the same sex to massage them. A lot of women also prefer a female gynecologist for the same reason.
Not to mention, the whole same sex/opposite sex dynamic goes out the window with a gay client or massage therapist.
Being sexual or not is about maintaining professionalism. It has nothing to do with the sex or sexual orientation of either the masseuse or the client.
that question was only about the people who doesn't have a massage from the opposite sex instead of the same sex.
i don't trust anyone, whether a professional or not. and even if i knew he did not feel anything while i was having a massage from him, i would still not feel comfortable.
i would also not have a massage from a lesbian if i knew she was a lesbian
My Wife tells me that she has booked me in for a massage.
Apparently, one of her friends does massage (just an acquaintance actually), and with me having a bad back, she thought of me. Well, I’m not into getting covered in icky oil, and am not really comfortable with the concept of letting her get her hands all over me. (If I had been single, then maybe).
I think I’ve got out of it by asking, “Does she do extras, and how much does she charge?” You never know, that could be how it is!
Having a young, skinny woman, or man, (if that be the case), clambering all over you, has got to be sexual thing, hasn’t it?
Maybe I'm just a prude!
My brother in law is a neuro muscular massage therapists and there is nothing sexual about it. He is a professional and does his job as he is supposed to.
That is not to say others are the same however, if you are that uncomfortable have your wife go in the room with you or find a good Chiropractor.
that question was only about the people who doesn't have a massage from the opposite sex instead of the same sex.
i don't trust anyone, whether a professional or not. and if he did not feel anything while i was having a massage from him, i would not feel comfortable.
i would also not have a massage from a lesbian if i knew she was a lesbian
That's nice to know. I've had a great massage from a masseuse who happened to be lesbian and I'm lesbian. Nothing sexual went on.
Sure, professionals can overstep, and I've had doctors that completely crossed a professional line. But you just have to trust your instincts and bolt if you sense anything fishy.
That's nice to know. I've had a great massage from a masseuse who happened to be lesbian and I'm lesbian. Nothing sexual went on.
Sure, professionals can overstep, and I've had doctors that completely crossed a professional line. But you just have to trust your instincts and bolt if you sense anything fishy.
It depends on the Massage. Unless it is Hubby doing the massaging though no, I personally only see it as something therapeutic and pleasant . Masseurs are Professionals like just any other professions. They provide a service which helps to alleviate pain, solve certain medical issues or simply cause relaxation.
I personally love massages whether Hubby is doing it or a Professional but then again I am very tactile. To me sexual desire starts in the brain so unless I am deciding there is a sexual component then a massage is simply someone helping to loosen my muscles and help with certain health issues.
Men seem more uncomfortable with massage than women actually. I think a lot of men do think it is more sexual than it actually is and also a lot of blokes seem uncomfortable with the concept of pampering.
I have had a lot of massages in my life and never felt aroused once apart from those Hubby provides.
And even within the concept of a relationship a massage can be simply that. Hubby usually has other thoughts I suspect but to me sometimes it is just nice to be rubbed and touched without a sexual component being part of it. Something soothing and relaxing, it is often such a lovely pleasant thing to help you sleep for example ( I am insomniac so any aid to relaxation is welcome).
I have paid for a couple of massages for Hubby ( Shoulders and back) before and he did not seem to be driven wild with passion . He does love to have his Head massaged though, I can see him starting to doze off and he always looks like the cat who got the cream. I got him one of those wire head massage thingies and he loves it !
He was too chicken to go to the Turkish Hammam in Istanbul last year though, I think the thought of some burly Turkish masseur walking over his back and pulling his arms almost out of his sockets did not appeal for some reason... Shame because I think Turkish Massages are fabulous.
I do find it odd this concept that simply having someone touch you elicit some form of sexual response. I am like a Cat, I love being rubbed and purr quite happily ! Maybe because I am so tactile a massage to me is just that.
When I was younger and training for various sports events I used to get masseurs trying to loosen you up and some of them were quite hunky and yet I do not remember ever feeling anything more than a purely non sexual pleasure and sense of well being ( as well as often occasional pain and discomfort as is often the case with Deep Tissue massages).
Arousal I suppose to me takes a lot more than mere physical stimulation. I need to be receptive emotionally which I know is not the case for many people.
It depends on the Massage. Unless it is Hubby doing the massaging though no, I personally only see it as something therapeutic and pleasant . Masseurs are Professionals like just any other professions. They provide a service which helps to alleviate pain, solve certain medical issues or simply cause relaxation.
I personally love massages whether Hubby is doing it or a Professional but then again I am very tactile. To me sexual desire starts in the brain so unless I am deciding there is a sexual component then a massage is simply someone helping to loosen my muscles and help with certain health issues.
Men seem more uncomfortable with massage than women actually. I think a lot of men do think it is more sexual than it actually is and also a lot of blokes seem uncomfortable with the concept of pampering.
I have had a lot of massages in my life and never felt aroused once apart from those Hubby provides.
And even within the concept of a relationship a massage can be simply that. Hubby usually has other thoughts I suspect but to me sometimes it is just nice to be rubbed and touched without a sexual component being part of it. Something soothing and relaxing, it is often such a lovely pleasant thing to help you sleep for example ( I am insomniac so any aid to relaxation is welcome).
I have paid for a couple of massages for Hubby ( Shoulders and back) before and he did not seem to be driven wild with passion . He does love to have his Head massaged though, I can see him starting to doze off and he always looks like the cat who got the cream. I got him one of those wire head massage thingies and he loves it !
He was too chicken to go to the Turkish Hammam in Istanbul last year though, I think the thought of some burly Turkish masseur walking over his back and pulling his arms almost out of his sockets did not appeal for some reason... Shame because I think Turkish Massages are fabulous.
I do find it odd this concept that simply having someone touch you elicit some form of sexual response. I am like a Cat, I love being rubbed and purr quite happily ! Maybe because I am so tactile a massage to me is just that.
When I was younger and training for various sports events I used to get masseurs trying to loosen you up and some of them were quite hunky and yet I do not remember ever feeling anything more than a purely non sexual pleasure and sense of well being ( as well as often occasional pain and discomfort as is often the case with Deep Tissue massages).
Arousal I suppose to me takes a lot more than mere physical stimulation. I need to be receptive emotionally which I know is not the case for many people.
i didn't understand the bold part
it's an old tradition and i never went to hamam, shame on me. lol
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I got him one of those wire head massage thingies and he loves it ! 
