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Well, it's kind of a huge joke to many women too, and as a raging atheist, all I can is, "Thank Gawd!"
It really didn't have much to do with religion, go figure -- And it just might be a huge joke to women -- but I never had women verbally berate me for it though . Didn't work though. To a weaker woman I'm sure some self entitled moron got the desired result he was going for eventually.
First of all OP, I never even heard of the 90 day rule. I kinda got the idea after reading a few posts. Let me say this to you. I have every right to say when, where, and with who I will sleep with. That's the only 'rule' I have. Why some men get pissed JUST because a woman wants to get to know a guy before she lets him shove his c--k in her is beyond me. Actually..no it isnt. Its because all a lot of men think about is getting laid. And you wonder why a woman wants to see if a guy is into HER rather than what's between her legs. I will NOT sleep with a guy until we both get to know more about each other and find out if we are both on the same page as to how we feel about each other. And I dont need his money, I have my own. He doesnt want to buy the movie tickets, who cares. Because in all reality, someone else will.
Why do some of you men seem so offended because some women want to get to know you, and see what you are about before she spreads her legs?? Has sex become THAT worthless? You think because you spend 15 bucks on a woman at Chilli's that she should be spreading for you?? I have a good job. I can buy my own damn meal...clothes, etc. Heck I can buy a sex toy..and I can even buy sperm. Do you want women to get that attitude, and look at you and say they dont need you?? Then, you guys will be complaining that women are too independent. I feel that the sleeping together issue is on a whole different level. If a guy asks me out,for example, why cant he pay? I am more than willing to treat a man, and I have on lots of occassions. Hell, I damn near supported my ex-boyfriend. Dont get me going. Sex is a more powerful and emotional thing between two people than deciding who pays for the pizza, or who buys the movie tickets.
Some men act offended by opening the wallet, yet they consistently go after these high maintenanced women because they are hot or have' big boobs' or something. The prima donnas. The low key women who arent all into a man's wallet get passed over. I see this all the time. You say you hate these gold diggers, but you PICK them a lot. Every chick I know that expects a man to cater to them with his wallet has NO problem getting men. None. Gee..go figure.
You men who are so offended about being made to wait for sex, do you have daughters? So, when you are at home looking at your precious 6 year old daughter with her pig tails, you are okay with her going on a first date with a guy when she is in college and bringing him back to her dorm room and letting him bang her doggie style? That's what you will tell your daughters? "It's okay honey. you dont need to get to know a guy.. and its rude to make him wait. Just let him bend you over the first week you guys are dating, honey. Make daddy proud".
Or would you tell your daughter to not feel pressured, and to get to know a guy, and only do something when she feels ready..and that sex can be a wonderful thing and should not be taken lightly? Dont be a hypocrite. If you think a woman you met only 2 weeks ago and have been on two dates with should be banging you like a porn star, then tell your daughters, your sisters, and even your divorced mama to saddle up and do the same thing.
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To me this idea of the man always paying is little different to the idea that the man should be the breadwinner and the woman should be a housewife. I understand some ladies like to feel romanced and pampered and that's fine, but I would prefer not to go out with a woman who EXPECTED men to pay for everything. I'd be much more happy paying for a women who didn't expect these things, because I genuinely liked her and cared for her not because I actually wanted sex in return.
Hey, Doll, isn't it nice that some of us on here post in a predictable manner? We're clearly NOT after rep points.
I don't care about rep points either.
Explain to me what benefits come from 'attention seeking,' 'pity party,' or whatever they call it via a bunch of strangers over the internet? The people that consistently say this must believe it amounts to something (and maybe it does to them) otherwise why would they keep pushing this dummy concept as a motive??
To me this idea of the man always paying is little different to the idea that the man should be the breadwinner and the woman should be a housewife. I understand some ladies like to feel romanced and pampered and that's fine, but I would prefer not to go out with a woman who EXPECTED men to pay for everything. I'd be much more happy paying for a women who didn't expect these things, because I genuinely liked her and cared for her not because I actually wanted sex in return.
I think it's great that everyone has their standards, but if you are miserly don't expect to be perceived as attractive by women.
One of the things that is innately hardwired in women is for a mate to be the top of the food chain in all ways - just like men are hardwired for beauty because it denotes health and health equals progeny . . . Just understand that when you come off as *****rdly and miserly, then you are just not sexy. Period. It's doesn't matter if it's "fair" or not, and the fact that some men whine about it, makes them even more unattractive.
For starters, where the hell did this "90 day rule" come from? I've never heard of it. Things happen when they happen.
Now, I always pay for the first date. However, having to pay for every date could get to be too much. Say we go out on dates twice a week. That could be up to $400+/mo. Although having no problem living within my means, I make a mediocre wage. Expecting me to keep up with $400/mo in just dinners while dating is a bit much. (not to mention anything else we may be doing before or after dinner)
What really gets me is how some people, like OngletNYC, are super bitter about a man not paying for the date. I don't really get why the man (or person who asks for the date) has to pay every single time. If the askee can't afford it, they could say something about it and maybe the asker would offer to pay, but to just outright expect to be paid for every time is rather unreasonable and just as unlikable a trait as the man not offering to pay on the first date.
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I think it's great that everyone has their standards, but if you are miserly don't expect to be perceived as attractive by women.
One of the things that is innately hardwired in women is for a mate to be the top of the food chain in all ways - just like men are hardwired for beauty because it denotes health and health equals progeny . . . Just understand that when you come off as *****rdly and miserly, then you are just not sexy. Period. It's doesn't matter if it's "fair" or not, and the fact that some men whine about it, makes them even more unattractive.
You see the distinction I'm making though, right? Maybe I AM a bit miserly by nature, but I think when talking anyone out for dinner - friends, family, a date - one has no place being a miser. ESPECIALLY if you've invited that person. I think the 'whoever asks/suggests pays' or just splitting it rule is good because it just prevents these kinds of issues. And a lot of women of my generation don't think twice about it. So I'm saying I would probably be happy paying even most of the time (even all of the time if she had trouble affording it).
If you're saying I should suck it up for a woman who EXPECTS this kind of princess treatment, then I would personally rather not, and keep on looking, because I know for a fact there are plenty of women who are NOT like this.
For starters, where the hell did this "90 day rule" come from? I've never heard of it. Things happen when they happen.
Now, I always pay for the first date. However, having to pay for every date could get to be too much. Say we go out on dates twice a week. That could be up to $400+/mo. Although having no problem living within my means, I make a mediocre wage. Expecting me to keep up with $400/mo in just dinners while dating is a bit much. (not to mention anything else we may be doing before or after dinner)
What really gets me is how some people, like OngletNYC, are super bitter about a man not paying for the date. I don't really get why the man (or person who asks for the date) has to pay every single time. If the askee can't afford it, they could say something about it and maybe the asker would offer to pay, but to just outright expect to be paid for every time is rather unreasonable and just as unlikable a trait as the man not offering to pay on the first date.
this thread is really funny. And 90 day rule is for sex and he made it for wallets now. LMAO.
Onglet sounds like she's traditional and think the man should pay. I thought most women subscribed to this, but maybe not.
this thread is really funny. And 90 day rule is for sex and he made it for wallets now. LMAO.
Onglet sounds like she's traditional and think the man should pay. I thought most women subscribed to this, but maybe not.
Well, I understood it was about sex, but I've never come across a woman who had a three month rule about no sex. Granted, I couldn't care less about when we get around to having sex or not, but to have a rule about it is pretty funny.
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. Didn't work though. To a weaker woman I'm sure some self entitled moron got the desired result he was going for eventually. 
