Online dating , do you just let men make first moves

[Chi-turtle]

Many women are just plain insecure. I really respect women who are confident with themselves and willing to put themselves out there to make the first move....but let's face it: those women are few and far between in this world. The burden of rejection is a burden that only men carry today.

[John13]

I was on OK Cupid for 5 months until I deleted my account about 3 months ago.

The whole time I was on there I was contacted first maybe 5 times, if that. My profile was too honest and I'm pretty sure that was the reason. Either that or it is very difficult when you are in your 50s. I contacted several and had a few conversations that went nowhere. A few never bothered to write back despite me writing a good message and the fact that we had things in common. Pretty sure it was my profile but I do not like dishonesty and I wanted it to sound like it was coming from a real person. I'm upfront and open, that's how I am.
I had one so-so date.

I have a closed mind to try it again as it was not a good experience for me.

Adding - I was hesitant to try this to begin with as that (online dating) is how I met my ex. It turned out to be a big disaster. We divorced in 2009.

[Chi-turtle]

I got back on (even though I'm not really as excited about it as I was years ago) but I've found more success by really taking it a lot less seriously.

My profile is funny. I try to give a sense of who I am, some of my interests, what I'm looking for, but I do so with a mix of some sarcastic humor. I've had a few people in the last week tell me they really found my profile interesting. I know my pictures aren't so great. I'm unphotogenic and I don't take many pictures of myself to begin with so I guess I have to make up for it with an interesting profile.

I guess my ability to love and care for someone is like a body that has been burned in a fire. It's still there, still functions, but I'm a little scarred and I have nerve damage: I just don't feel the same way anymore, if I feel anything at all.

I'm not giving up on the possiblity of meeting someone that is a great fit for me. There's a girl I really like at work who has a bf but we're starting to become friends (she gave me her number yesterday to hang out sometime.) That would just be torture for me a few years past, but now it's no big deal. I just don't care as much.

Life goes on, you don't get as excited about dating or meeting women which can be a double edged sword. It's great because if it doesn't work out then you really don't feel bad about it, but at the same time I can't help but wonder if I'll fail to appreciate a great girl that does come my way.

I say oh well. I live my life now by these words: Just go with it. Do what makes you happy and worry about nothing else.

You stick to that, it makes dating a ton easier, especially if you just stop caring.

[DRGirl]

I've been online for over a year now and all of the men I have met met contact with me first. I am very old fashioned so I want men to make the first move. I have, however, emailed a couple of men whose profiles seem interesting to me. Do what makes you feel confortable and not what other people tell you to do.

[MsAnnThrope]

I've been on Oasis for a couple of weeks now.

I'm going to delete my profile. They all seem to be such creeps. Those who don't ask my cup size or if I like "fun" turn out to be either crazy in another way or extremely unattractive.

I'm not overly picky either...!