what is going on in this guy's head? (partner, romantic, friendzone)

[candy 87]

iv got some updates... maybe i should not have brought up the girl again but i did..
i just asked how is your girl?
he goes im not talking to her anymore and then he said by the way she is not my girl
shes just a friend, and then i said yes a friend with some benefits (seeing as they did stuff together )lol...he said ii did not do anything with her

next thing i know... i message him sayin u know what its nothing to do with me what you do with that girl..its your business... then out of knowhere he starts saying so much to me,,,

he said do u want to be my fwb? i said what? :O he said is that a yes.. i just said ur joking lol
and i said depends wht u mean and he goes .. it wud b nice..think about it
i said well if thats what ur looking for im sure u have plenty of girls u kno who wud b interested...

and then he goes i dont want them i want you :O :O
like what is that all about? y is he flirting / joking around with me like that ..because in all the years i'v known him we hardly do the flirting thing..and hes rarely said stuff lik tht to me b4 :O :s :/

and especially straight after telling me about his date :s

[candy 87]

Originally Posted by Ascension2012

Women are indirect, it is a feminine display of how they communicate. Notice, in a relationship a woman will rarely really say whats not working or what on her mind, but would rather drop a 100 hints, thinking her man should know what she's trying to communicate. Its normal and every guy should know this. Men on the other hand, are supposed to be direct which is a display of masculine behavior.

i concur..is all i can say lol
it is true what your saying though... i think a man has his role a woman has hers

[candy 87]

Originally Posted by 1208

Can you blame him for being cautious after the way she has been acting? He is sending her all kind of messages and hints and seeing how she responds, based on the way she has been responding I would be hesitant to ask her out as well. If I were him I would think she doesn't like me. She has given him the cold shoulder at every turn. He has been trying to get her interest and she is ignoring him, now she has given up and they will grow old and die without ever dating each other because neither one actually stepped up and took the reigns. Candy you have given me a bummer start to my day.

im sorry lol... but did u read my update?
im trying my best to keep in contact with him though... don't owrry i wont give up
i just analyse too much sometimes
heres the update...after the part where i txt him about his "girl"

[i messaged him sayin u know what its nothing to do with me what you do with that girl..its your business... then out of knowhere he starts saying so much to me,,,
he said do u want to be my friend with benefits? i said what? :O he said is that a yes.. i just said ur joking lol
and i said depends wht u mean and he goes .. it wud b nice..think about it
i said well if thats what ur looking for im sure u have plenty of girls u kno who wud b interested...
and then he goes i dont want them i want you :O :O , i want you badly..but the way he was saying it it sounded serious/ not serious coz he was making little jokes in btween
like what is that all about? y is he flirting / joking around with me like that ..because in all the years i'v known him we hardly do the flirting thing..and hes rarely said stuff lik tht to me b4 :O :s :/
and especially straight after telling me about his date :s

[1208]

Ok, I can see you have this one under control, take it from here candy. Just try not to be so damn difficult every time you talk to him.

[candy 87]

Originally Posted by 1208

Ok, I can see you have this one under control, take it from here candy. Just try not to be so damn difficult every time you talk to him.

LOL ok ill try

[he's so hott]

Originally Posted by candy 87

LOL ok ill try

So you're going to do the fwb thing?

[candy 87]

Originally Posted by he's so hott

So you're going to do the fwb thing?

lol no thats not what i meant

more that i'm going to try and not be so difficult when he suggests stuff..or hints stuff

ill try to be more direct

[srjth]

I don't know, I just think that maybe you don't like him all that much. Maybe a little but not that much. It's the only conclusion left to come to.

[candy 87]

Originally Posted by srjth

I don't know, I just think that maybe you don't like him all that much. Maybe a little but not that much. It's the only conclusion left to come to.

trust me its more complicated than that lol
ther are always grey areass
plus he always goes from one extreme to the next what am i supposed to think
at least i'v more or less been the same with him

one extreme im dating people
next extreme actually i dont like any of them you're the one i want

[candy 87]

Originally Posted by 1208

Ok, I can see you have this one under control, take it from here candy. Just try not to be so damn difficult every time you talk to him.

in the space of a few days he's gone from one end of the extreme scale to the next

"iv been dating in the time we havnt spoken"

to " i want you so badly"

erm i need to sort my head out because its spinning LOL