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I think its an important process. It teaches you to a greater extent what you want and like in a partner and what you don't want and like. It also teaches you about yourself. I know someone who married his first GF, things havn't worked out too well. Of course it can, but hasn't in their case.
Thoughts on the subject from both a male and female point of view?
I'm a guy and I don't find it important. I think if you find the right person to settle down with on your first attempt, then by all means you should go with it. There's no reason to have to dump someone who is perfect for you because people think you should date more people.
That being said, I don't think it happens often... but there shouldn't be any sort of rule for it. Just however it works out, if it just so happens you have to date a few people, so be it. If not, all the power to ya.
My parents are still together and started dating when they were 16 years old.
I think for some people it's important, while for others it is most decidedly NOT important.
Some people are very secure at a young age, secure in who they are and what they want. They often marry young and have marriages which last.
Others may be secure in what they want, but find that they're not getting what they thought they were getting.... or it's NOT what they wanted, they didn't think it through... or they were never really secure in who they are...
The reasons are endless. And for those people, some life experience proves necessary NOT in just the academic process of learning, but in the course of discovering who they are and thus where and how they fit in or do NOT fit in.
I think for me ... it's more about what I've become than what I want.
I'm so much more mature now than I was in high school. I'm still a good guy, but really, I'm a different person in terms of so many things.
So, the person who I married back then is probably not the person I would want now.
In terms of going through many women to get to know what you want I agree a little, but I'd rather just find someone nice and cool and get it over with.
I think for me ... it's more about what I've become than what I want.
I'm so much more mature now than I was in high school. I'm still a good guy, but really, I'm a different person in terms of so many things.
So, the person who I married back then is probably not the person I would want now.
In terms of going through many women to get to know what you want I agree a little, but I'd rather just find someone nice and cool and get it over with.
Dating really blows.
recommend online dating, if someone isn't having much joy the old fashioned way
I think for some people it's important, while for others it is most decidedly NOT important.
This^^.
And here's the thing. Getting married when you are both young has a tremendous advantage in that you both will learn and bend and grow together. It is FAR easier to marry and remain happily so, when you are younger, rather than when you are older. I always think of it like two trees. If planted together when they are young, they grow side-by-side, and curve together and support each other. But if you take those same trees when they have separately matured, and then try and plant them side-by-side...they just don't fit...unless you are very very lucky.
I'm not interested in marriage again, I've been bending on my on far too long.
And here's the thing. Getting married when you are both young has a tremendous advantage in that you both will learn and bend and grow together. It is FAR easier to marry and remain happily so, when you are younger, rather than when you are older. I always think of it like two trees. If planted together when they are young, they grow side-by-side, and curve together and support each other. But if you take those same trees when they have separately matured, and then try and plant them side-by-side...they just don't fit...unless you are very very lucky.
I'm not interested in marriage again, I've been bending on my on far too long.
You read quite abit of BS on this forum, but that is not.....cool analogy
I think it seems important because so few people meet their soulmates when they're 18. We have a lot of growing up to do in our teens- mid 20s and part of that is finding out what kind of person you want to date.
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