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Girls in NYC are plentiful and that's not far away from PA-you just have to joke with them to get through the hard shell. Have you thought about relocating there? They are great women and much freindlier than a lot of other places.
yeah NYC women have the highest standards.. its def not an area to build confidence
I have some less common interests such as dixieland music, vocal classical music, birdwatching, trees. Not a lot of people, especially in a less populated area, that are interested in stuff like that.
If your in a college town then you should be able to find people who match your interests. Or you can start an online club.
Part of me wants to change some things about my life, but part of me is too proud. "I'm perfect just the way I am".
At least you have that self-awareness, you know what your self-imposed obstacles are. You're in a better position than some people, really!
I just wanted to say: DIXIELAND! is very cool Certain types of classical music Are you a birder? That can be good, too. Ha--you said you have no hobbies or interests. Turns out, you've got some pretty good ones. You probably just never thought anyone would be interested in that somewhat fuddy-duddy stuff. Well, I'm interested, and there must be other women out there like me. (Who can NOT LIKE Dixieland??! Who can resist Dixieland?) So you really do have something to offer, but the main issue at this point is the social anxiety. So I leave you to your therapist in that regard.
(btw, is there a reason he doesn't have you on meds for it, yet? Have you asked?)
At least you have that self-awareness, you know what your self-imposed obstacles are. You're in a better position than some people, really!
I just wanted to say: DIXIELAND! is very cool Certain types of classical music Are you a birder? That can be good, too. Ha--you said you have no hobbies or interests. Turns out, you've got some pretty good ones. You probably just never thought anyone would be interested in that somewhat fuddy-duddy stuff. Well, I'm interested, and there must be other women out there like me. (Who can NOT LIKE Dixieland??! Who can resist Dixieland?) So you really do have something to offer, but the main issue at this point is the social anxiety. So I leave you to your therapist in that regard.
(btw, is there a reason he doesn't have you on meds for it, yet? Have you asked?)
I know some people who can't stand dixieland. Many others who could take it or leave it.
I have not gone birding with binoculars or whatnot in a number of years. On hikes I've taken, there doesn't seem to be a lot of bird diversity around here, oddly. The trees are pretty interesting around here, though.
No, I have not asked about meds. But he's never brought them up either. As I said, I've been on prozac before and it didn't help in any way. Anyhow, he's not an MD anyways, so I'd have to go to a psychiatrist. I'm not going to let just any old doctor prescribe for me mind altering medicines, only a psychiatrist. It's never been brought up that I ought to see a psychiatrist.
If your in a college town then you should be able to find people who match your interests. Or you can start an online club.
I'll admit that I probably could find people who are interested in those things.
Most of my complaints about this area during day 1 of this thread were wild exaggerations. I was in that kind of a mood that day. But it really is an odd place, and not the place I'd choose to live if it weren't for my having a job here and my not having a job anywhere else.
Notice that you didn't respond to my good advice which is probably the best you've gotten on this thread. You are the texbook definition of doing the same things over and over and expecting change. You need change more than just about anyone I've ever seen. Pack up and start over. You hate State College -- don't live there!
yeah NYC women have the highest standards.. its def not an area to build confidence
You can add Los Angeles to that list too.
NY and CA girls are the most materialistic and stuck up.
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Certain types of classical music 
Are you a birder? That can be good, too. Ha--you said you have no hobbies or interests. Turns out, you've got some pretty good ones. You probably just never thought anyone would be interested in that somewhat fuddy-duddy stuff. Well, I'm interested, and there must be other women out there like me. (Who can NOT LIKE Dixieland??! Who can resist Dixieland?) So you really do have something to offer, but the main issue at this point is the social anxiety. So I leave you to your therapist in that regard. 
