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Your advice about not discussing the gut wrenching details of your divorce is spot on.
I'm assuming you are following your own advice?
Here's one more piece - when you truly believe that all "women are flaky" THAT comes through in your attitude and could be one big reason by you are not getting any second dates.
Rethink your attitude my friend - your bitterness is repelling women from you instead of drawing them in.
Do you just stalk my posts to find fault with them? You've done stuff like this half a dozen times at least. From my experience, many women are flaky, meaning they don't know what they want or in the information age (ie: online dating, facebook, twitter, and so on), have so many choices, as a man, you become a number. That has been my experience since my divorce with just a couple of exceptions. Just talking about what I've experienced.
Reed, sounds like you've got it pretty much figured out. My advice was more for a date with someone you didn't know as well or hadn't talked to much. Have fun!
]Do you just stalk my posts to find fault with them? [/b]You've done stuff like this half a dozen times at least. From my experience, many women are flaky, meaning they don't know what they want or in the information age (ie: online dating, facebook, twitter, and so on), have so many choices, as a man, you become a number. That has been my experience since my divorce with just a couple of exceptions. Just talking about what I've experienced.
Reed, sounds like you've got it pretty much figured out. My advice was more for a date with someone you didn't know as well or hadn't talked to much. Have fun!
Gosh no. I was actually on this thread before you showed up and posted. All I did was respond to what you wrote.
The problem with "your experience" of women being "flaky" is that it's not truly representative of all women.
All I am trying to get you to realize is, the common denominator in all your issues is you.
I don't say this to hurt you or cut you down in any way, promise I am truly trying to help you because you seem so stuck and unaware of how you may be repelling woman. For a man who really wants a relationship the way I know you do, this is tragic.
Hey Atlguy39, I may be looking at a similar situation as my wife left almost 2 yrs ago and recently initiated the divorce (our lawyers are going back and forth). Im now in Savannah but we used to live in Atl. (she moved back there)way
Anyways, is it true that : woman are much more into online dating and have so many more choices to date than men do? I been reading on line all these other articles about how many more single women there are compared to single men so I supposed that odds would be towards a man getting more date opportunities. I sometimes go up to atlanta to visit relatives living up there or in Macon.
If I had the wrong idea about men to women ratio, I'm a bit uncomfortable because I figure my chances are already slim as I'm probably kind of selective; that is I have some standards: must be educated, working, no 'string' of marriages in past, no drama in life, non-smoker and drug free ( I dont even drink), not overweight, attractive and good sense of humor and self-esteem, honest and caring.
Oh and: personality matters ;good looks are important, but like anything new....
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Gosh no. I was actually on this thread before you showed up and posted. All I did was respond to what you wrote.
The problem with "your experience" of women being "flaky" is that it's not truly representative of all women.
All I am trying to get you to realize is, the common denominator in all your issues is you.
I don't say this to hurt you or cut you down in any way, promise I am truly trying to help you because you seem so stuck and unaware of how you may be repelling woman. For a man who really wants a relationship the way I know you do, this is tragic.
Maybe I'm just being sensitive because it seems you enjoy pointing out what I'm doing/saying wrong. Remember, this is a message board and I'm not, or trying not to act cynical or angry when I'm out with a woman. But yeah, I am stuck and thats more a function of my low self esteem due to my divorce (although I have moved on) and never ending career issues. The career thing angers me more than women. I think if I could just catch a damn break in my career, the women would follow. But my life has been on hold for 3 years due to career (ie: recession that never ends) and recovering from divorce. So I'm just sick of it and vent sometimes.
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Originally Posted by outdoorman
Hey Atlguy39, I may be looking at a similar situation as my wife left almost 2 yrs ago and recently initiated the divorce (our lawyers are going back and forth). Im now in Savannah but we used to live in Atl. (she moved back there)way
Anyways, is it true that : woman are much more into online dating and have so many more choices to date than men do? I been reading on line all these other articles about how many more single women there are compared to single men so I supposed that odds would be towards a man getting more date opportunities. I sometimes go up to atlanta to visit relatives living up there or in Macon.
If I had the wrong idea about men to women ratio, I'm a bit uncomfortable because I figure my chances are already slim as I'm probably kind of selective; that is I have some standards: must be educated, working, no 'string' of marriages in past, no drama in life, non-smoker and drug free ( I dont even drink), not overweight, attractive and good sense of humor and self-esteem, honest and caring.
Oh and: personality matters ;good looks are important, but like anything new....
Well, I don't know what to tell you on this. I live in an area where there are supposedly tons of single women, but I guess they stay at home because I don't see them. Yes, your online dating comment is true. Its insane the number of men these women that you or I would go after (because I'm just as picky as you) are juggling. I do think you'll have relatively better luck (in theory) here in Atlanta than Savannah, but just know that women are going to judge you on money and the car you drive right away and either decide to date you or eliminate you on that. This city is insanely shallow, thats what I'm saying.
Your advice about not discussing the gut wrenching details of your divorce is spot on.(
Who in their right mind would do this? Anyone who actually needs advice of this kind needs a lot more help than anyone here can give them.
Personally, I think the OP should date women who don't make him so nervous. There's nothing worse than that "nervous sweat" people give off when they're really nervous.
Hopefully he'll be back to give us an update.
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I am truly trying to help you because you seem so stuck and unaware of how you may be repelling woman. For a man who really wants a relationship the way I know you do, this is tragic.
