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A lot of horrible people have partners, especially those with either looks or money (or both). There are a lot of good people who are alone. There are a lot of bad people who treat people like ****, but have no problem finding partners. It's an injustice, but people pass it off as "life's not fair".
there is plenty of talk about love, what to do, how to meet partners etc.. but does everyone deserve love or happiness?
there are plenty of single people around who have never had a GF or BF and likely never will, yet they are often very nice people.
whose fault is that, and why should they be constantly denied?
Why is "fault" involved?
Are you talking about yourself?
I don't want a relationship, and all relationships don't bring love or happiness.
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CDC - Violence Prevention Home Page - Injury CDC - Home Page - Intimate Partner Violence - Violence Prevention - Injury Intimate partner violence (IPV) is a serious, preventable public health problem that affects millions of Americans. The term "intimate partner violence" describes physical, sexual, or psychological harm by a current or former partner or spouse. This type of violence can occur among heterosexual or same-sex couples and does not require sexual intimacy.
I am not sure they are even deserved. Someone should give us food, water, and shelter just because we exist? Our right to those things has been earned and protected through an awful lot of bloodshed and sacrafice. We should be thankful for them, not feel entitled.
Yeah, better to let them die.
Nope, basic human rights.
A lot of horrible people have partners, especially those with either looks or money (or both). There are a lot of good people who are alone. There are a lot of bad people who treat people like ****, but have no problem finding partners. It's an injustice, but people pass it off as "life's not fair".
Yep. It goes back to like attracting like, water seeking its own level, you attract what you are, etc. A loser will attract other losers, so it's not like you as the single person, are missing out on a quality relationship with a woman because she's with an ex-con/druggie/alcoholic/unemployed/homeless guy. If he's such a "stellar" person, you can guarantee she is too.
You make the best of what you have in life, and if you're lacking the results you desire, it's on you. No one is obligated to give you what you want, from relationships, to jobs to other life successes, it's on you to create/pursue what you desire. Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, other accomplished people, they didn't get to where they were by sitting around with their hand out, having a lazy and entitled attitude.
You really believe the people who work the hardest are rewarded the most?
Not always, but they'll be much further ahead than the guy who thinks he doesn't have to make any effort at all, and everything he has ever desired will just fall into his lap.
there is plenty of talk about love, what to do, how to meet partners etc.. but does everyone deserve love or happiness?
there are plenty of single people around who have never had a GF or BF and likely never will, yet they are often very nice people.
whose fault is that, and why should they be constantly denied?
Referring to bolded portion above: a resounding yes, in my humble opinion Love and affection are both very human needs, and that everyone fundamentally and universally needs. No one should ever have to go without having loved, and being loved...
Referring to bolded portion above: a resounding yes, in my humble opinion Love and affection are both very human needs, and that everyone fundamentally and universally needs. No one should ever have to go without having loved, and being loved...
Lol sure, why not? Unless someone has done something very ethically heinous and grevious, like committed murder or intentional assault and harm on someone or something similar like that, shouldn't everyone ideally have a fair opportunity at loving, and being loved back? Everyone, every single one of us, needs love, to be truly emotionally-healthy and happy...why should some go without? I have never quite understood why some claim that some are "deserving", while others are not...and the latter seems like a rather cruel and uncaring alternative...
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Lol sure, why not? Unless someone has done something very ethically heinous and grevious, like committed murder or intentional assault and harm on someone or something similar like that, shouldn't everyone ideally have a fair opportunity at loving, and being loved back? Everyone, every single one of us, needs love, to be truly emotionally-healthy and happy...why should some go without? I have never quite understood why some claim that some are "deserving", while others are not...and the latter seems like a rather cruel and uncaring alternative...
I have to disagree with the bolded sentiment. I think the love does not necessarily need to be romantic. I think you can be emotionally healthy and permanently single. Those are not mutually exclusive.
Lol sure, why not? Unless someone has done something very ethically heinous and grevious, like committed murder or intentional assault and harm on someone or something similar like that, shouldn't everyone ideally have a fair opportunity at loving, and being loved back? Everyone, every single one of us, needs love, to be truly emotionally-healthy...why should some go without? I have never quite understood why some claim that some are "deserving", while others are not...and the latter seems like a rather cruel and uncaring alternative...
No everyone deserves the pursuit of a partner. I'm not going to be with anyone just because they deserve it. You don't deserve a partner nor do I. We do deserve to pursue if that is what you want. Not everyone needs to love someone or be loved to be healthy. Sorry, I call BS because I'm successful then many lovebirds out there. It has a role but it can be defied as humans have the ability to reason. As a result, I can disregard it and function just fine without it.
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Love and affection are both very human needs, and that everyone fundamentally and universally needs. No one should ever have to go without having loved, and being loved...
