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Old 10-09-2012, 11:42 PM
 
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There is a difference between "being a good guy and being a doormat."
But at their age, especially if this is the first time you've been cheated on, they are still learning this lesson by navigating their way through it. That doesn't make him a doormat.
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Old 10-09-2012, 11:43 PM
 
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In my experience, the only relationships that survive these issues are ones that have strong family commitments like a marriage and children.
I would tend to agree with you on this.
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Old 10-09-2012, 11:43 PM
 
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But at their age, especially if this is the first time you've been cheated on, they are still learning this lesson by navigating their way through it. That doesn't make him a doormat.
Wise people learn from others mistakes. Experienced people learn from their own mistakes. This would be high time to take wisdom over experience.
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Old 10-09-2012, 11:47 PM
 
Location: NYC
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My friend cheated on her bf and well he caught her, as in really busted her. But the guy is undecided and they're still talking it out. This happened last month.

Anyway I can help my gf get her man back?
this sounds like the beginning of a positively awesome porno

assuming you don't want to go the extra mile though, faxton, i don't think there's anything you can do
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Old 10-09-2012, 11:47 PM
 
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Wise people learn from others mistakes. Experienced people learn from their own mistakes. This would be high time to take wisdom over experience.
I don't disagree with you, I just don't fault the young man for not being there just yet.

There's a learning curve to these life lessons.
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Old 10-09-2012, 11:47 PM
 
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He could and should end this relationship quietly. He doesn't need to broadcast whey they split.
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Old 10-09-2012, 11:49 PM
 
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He could and should end this relationship quietly. He doesn't need to broadcast whey they split.
Actually, he "could and should" do what he feels is right and best for himself.

Just because you were cheated on at some point and have zero tolerance for it or for forgiveness of it doesn't mean ALL men should think the same thing. Just saying...
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Old 10-09-2012, 11:49 PM
 
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He could and should end this relationship quietly. He doesn't need to broadcast whey they split.
I agree. There doesn't have to be a big dramatic fall out either.
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Old 10-09-2012, 11:53 PM
 
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Actually, he "could and should" do what he feels is right and best for himself.

Just because you were cheated on at some point and have zero tolerance for it or for forgiveness of it doesn't mean ALL men should think the same thing. Just saying...
You can forgive someone, but you don't need to restore the level of trust that was once abused. You can forgive someone and never speak to them again.

Once the trust is damaged or gone, there is no relationship.
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Old 10-10-2012, 02:58 AM
 
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Keep out of it and I hope your friends bf drops your friend like hot garbage.
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