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Ever think that helping her friend might be allowing her to learn from her mistake by losing this guy vs. trying to help her convince a guy she cheated on to give her another chance?
What the friend and her boyfriend decide is between the two of them.
I've known couples who have survived after cheating and I know couples who haven't. But it's always a decision that the two people involved in the relationship make - not their friends.
My friend cheated on her bf and well he caught her, as in really busted her. But the guy is undecided and they're still talking it out. This happened last month.
Anyway I can help my gf get her man back? Thing is he's thinking about it and according to her, he told her if she can help him recover from and believe it's not gonna happen again then he'll give it another try.
If someone got caught cheating and the person is undecided, how can he/she prove to them that they can be trusted again?
I wouldn't help. I hope someone helps this kid realize he dodged a bullet.
In the real world I have seen very few recover from cheating. If it isn't over immediately anger kicks in when the shock wears off or the trust issues kill the relationship. I have never seen a relationship recover from a long affair. Cheaters may not cheat again but they often do and this will be something his friends are reminding him of as he talks of this, and yes he is almost certainly talking to someone. In my opinion the outlook is grim any time this happens and lessons will be learned the hard way. What you can do is provide a ready ear when called upon and nothing else. Intercede at the risk of your own friendship because things often go sideways in these situations.
Though he doesn't deserve this and is a good guy, it's not him I'm close friends with. If he were my close friend then yes that's what I would advise him.
If he really did "bust her big time", I'd imagine that he may not take her back. It also is not your place as a friend (or anyone else for that matter) to meddle in anyone else's relationship with their significant other.
She played a stupid game, and the loss of his trust is her prize and her own DA fault.
As most everyone has said already, you need to let them solve this. I know she is your friend and she asked you for help, but you don't want to be in the middle of this hot mess.
Personally I think if she wasn't caught she'd still be boinking that guy. She knew what she was doing was wrong. I don't give 2nd chances when it comes to cheating.
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hmmm...
