A simple question for women (lesbians, single, gay, friend)
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I guess getting hit on can be kind of annoying, but when I really think about it, I am happy anyone is still interested. I'm sure there are chics who never get hit on and I think that would be kind of sad. I guess I don't get hit on as much as I did when I was younger (I'm 39), but I guess most guys my age are w/someone and should not be hitting on me anyways.
It all depends on their moods and personality. Just tonight I went out and this nice older woman told me she liked my top. And I told her where I got it from. We discuss finding items on sale and cheaper than we were younger with all the name brand high end stuff. She was super sweet and wished me a Happy Holiday.
You have a very smart girlfriend. Maybe she has noticed you are (possibly?) the jealous type. Everyone wants to feel desired. If you look at it from a certain angle. Guys hitting on her is a compliment to YOU and your good taste. What would you propose as a remedy? Have her go around in a gunny sack with a scarf on her head? If she's Angelina, Halle, Gabrielle or Jennifer beautiful, that's not gonna change anything...she's still gonna get hit on!
I like compliments, and unfortunately the hitting on part comes with it sometimes. You just have to decide once and for all to trust your lady and forget about it.
Too many posts to reply to. But I just want to make one thing clear. I don't have much of a problem that she gets hit on. It comes with the territory and is a reality whether I like it or not. There are always going to be some low-class men with sleazy and degrading approach qualities. While I don't like that, again its a reality.
Also I don't recall it happening when we are in each others company, a full on hit on that is. People being friendly or sociable is common.
Apparently, these CD folks make it all sound too commonplace.
You might be surprised. All of my friends have experienced similar at some point.
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Originally Posted by Mentat
It IS commonplace. It happens to a lot of women constantly.
This is especially true if you live in places where you come in frequent, close contact with a lot of strangers, like on crowded streets, the subway, the bus, in stores, etc. The anonymity of a big city emboldens men to act this way because they know they'll never see you again--and are, therefore, less likely to get in trouble. Whereas, in a smaller town, people are less likely to do this, because they know they'll probably run into you again. .......But I've lived in a big city for most of my adult life. In big cities with a lot of pedestrians and public transit, like NYC, DC, Chicago, etc. where you're not in the cocoon of your car--anything goes.
These are the sorts of comments that happen on a crowded sidewalk, on the subway or at a bus stop.
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Originally Posted by Wambatown81
I can see how it could be annoying for an attractive woman to be hit on constantly but I'm sure its far better than never ever being hit on.
It might be if the comments weren't lewd and you worried about things escalating because you said no.
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Originally Posted by Miss J 74
There are also guys who don't handle it well. What I find funny is the first insults they always tend to throw out when you reject them is you're either fat or ugly.
Or that you are a lesbian, a B**** or frigid, because there is no way you could be rejecting a "hottie" like the winner who was making the lewd comments.
My GF gets hit on pretty regularly. 2-3 times a week on average. She says she would rather it not happen at all.
I find this statement very hard to believe.
For women that get hit on regularly and in a relationship or have been, be honest, would you seriously say you would rather not be hit on at all?
you don't know what you got till its gone..........
Of course not.
Depends on the guy, but I don't mind as long as they are polite. Right now, I've been working my ass off at the gym and if I didn't get hit on occasionally, I'd be ticked.
Depends on the guy, but I don't mind as long as they are polite. Right now, I've been working my ass off at the gym and if I didn't get hit on occasionally, I'd be ticked.
Don't put your happiness in the hands of other people.
I work hard at the gym too, but I do it for strength and health.
I laugh when women say Im getting too big, when I am not even close to looking like arnie yet.
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