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It depends. All you know when a woman invites you to a bar to drink is that she would like your company. Whether she thinks you're just a friend who would not, in a million years, the tiniest chance of kissing her (let alone anything further) or whether she thinks you're the most irresistible man she's ever met, and she's willing to drug you so she can have you sexually, you cannot possibly know.
Years ago "Jenny," a much younger woman, contacted me unexpectedly on a weekend night. She literally said she wanted a drinking buddy. Jenny was and is pretty attractive, and she did have a certain flirtatious thing about her. I didn't say no. Turns out Jenny had boyfriend issues and she just wanted advice. Mind you, although drinking was her idea, we went to a bar which I chose - a bar where we were the only customers, at the bar, with a phenomenal view to the nightline of New York City. Women love that, and I knew she liked the atmosphere.
Yet, Jenny wanted to meet me only as a friend. And at the bar, nothing happened.
Later on, as we were at another establishment, after much more alcohol was consumed, Jenny and I both lost our inhibition. By now, I was letting on that I was attracted (I sat next to her as opposed to facing her), put my arm around her, and she promptly leaned her body into mine. Next thing you know, we had to walk out because otherwise we would've made out heavily, not sitting down I might add.
Jenny and I didn't have sex that night. In fact, we never did. But my point is made. Jenny wanted to meet me as a friend, but as I look back, it became evident to me that she found me attractive, and wanted my company, and welcome my advances (because her behavior after the 2nd bar showed me she wasn't the type who'd passively and quietly sit there while a man kissed and caressed her).
More recently, I met up with a female friend, "Miriam," for the first time in 3 years. We met on a Saturday night near her place - she lives alone. Her neighborhood has a few bars within walking distance. We first had coffee at a nearby cafe, and then walked to a bar. It was dark - not the most well-lit neighborhood. The bar was empty - just us two. We barely drank. Neither one of us got drunk or buzzed - and I walked her to her place. She got her car, drove me back to my place, and that was it.
Miriam was evidently not at all interested in me sexually or otherwise. I was just a friend whom she hadn't seen in a while. Does this mean I find Miriam unattractive? On the contrary, she's gorgeous. But she had self-control - because she knew what she wanted, and she wanted NOTHING other than a nice conversation with me - and that's all she got.
Swiss-Italian coffee consists of putting grappa into espresso. Sometimes when I have one with my uncle's virulent home-fermented grappa, I think that he may have gotten it the other way around; putting a little bit of espresso into a shot of grappa.
OK so my coworkers and I were having a debate about this. So I thought it would be a great thread topic.
Quick summary of the situation:
Coworker got a note from a guy who works at one of our partners to meet up some time. She wants to go, because she wants to be friends. She has a boyfriend and has no interest that way. They both like specialty cocktails, and that is what prompted the invite.
So we started polling the men in my office.
They all said "if she asks you for drinks, she wants to hook up. Go out for coffee instead."
She was just thinking of it being a friendly happy hour, if she were to initiate an outing.
So guys, chime in? Do you agree with my maie coworkers? [The men were in their 20s and 30s]
I once went out for drinks during a night after work with a male colleague. On a completely different occasion, we went to dinner. Does this mean that I'm now in a relationship?
My friend and I were dating for about 6 months before we were the last to find out about it. Based on the amount of time I spend doing things one-on-one with my guy friends, I must be a polygamist...either that or a serial cheater.
Or I'm destined to be single because I'm allergic to alcohol and don't like coffee. Good thing I have my good friends Ben and Jerry to console me!
Or an over-priced drink at a concert venue! $12 for a 6oz plastic cup of Jack and Coke is insane.
Now that's my kinda guy
It was low risk. I was wearing a trench coat and I knew I was going to want to have a drink through part of the movie(Pulse. Ugh) and I had to give it a try lol.
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