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It's a joke if you use the wrong sites, or use them badly. If you are looking for a "purple squirrel" as the headhunters say - someone with unusual features, like child-free, a specific religion or philosophy, etc. probably online is the best way to go about it, rather than, for example if you are child-free, meet girl, go on a few dates, learn she wants a family, dump her as gracefully as you can, rinse, and repeat...
It's a joke if you use the wrong sites, or use them badly. If you are looking for a "purple squirrel" as the headhunters say - someone with unusual features, like child-free, a specific religion or philosophy, etc. probably online is the best way to go about it, rather than, for example if you are child-free, meet girl, go on a few dates, learn she wants a family, dump her as gracefully as you can, rinse, and repeat...
Dates in online dating?
I sent 40 messages once and did not get a single response
Online dating is completely futile for guys like me who just do regular conversation (instead of the dancing clown routine)
I'm just missing something, maybe a certain series of traits that makes me very unappealing to women when I'm first talking to them
Probably your problem is, in a nutshell, you have convinced yourself that you are unattractive/awkward around women, and darn it, you fulfill your own expectations.
I was a bit like this in my teens. One way to overcome it is to continue your physical routines, as I am always preaching on here, "muscle up and make out" - it worked (after a fashion) for Arnold, and it will work for you too. You look good in your pictures. One venue would be to take it to the next level, so to speak.
Get good at something. I learned cars, for one thing. When I would come upon a "damsel in distress" and the distress was coming from her car, "thank you Jesus, thank you Lord" I would say, many casual dates from that.
By the time I was in college, I had indeed muscled up, and majoring in Physics at a liberal arts school, was considered "a brain" as well, that attracted some ladies.
You have to do whatever it takes so when you look in the mirror, you see an awesome dude that some gal will be really glad to meet. Up to you to figure out what that is.
I sent 40 messages once and did not get a single response
Online dating is completely futile for guys like me who just do regular conversation (instead of the dancing clown routine)
It's one of those things that requires skill. It takes a little while to learn how to do it.
When I first started online dating, I got no responses. As I started changing my messages, pictures, and profile around, I started getting better results. I progressed from no responses, to not so hot girls responding, to girls messaging me, to dates, to hot girls responding (but no dates with them). Unfortunately, I moved and now I'm in a location where there are very few females online dating within 50 miles of me. But I think if I would have stayed at my previous locale, I would be getting dates with hot girls from online by now.
It's one of those things that requires skill. It takes a little while to learn how to do it.
When I first started online dating, I got no responses. As I started changing my messages, pictures, and profile around, I started getting better results. I progressed from no responses, to not so hot girls responding, to girls messaging me, to dates, to hot girls responding (but no dates with them). Unfortunately, I moved and now I'm in a location where there are very few females online dating within 50 miles of me. But I think if I would have stayed at my previous locale, I would be getting dates with hot girls from online by now.
Online dating is hugely one sided
The reason is because it's hard to convey your charisma and personality through an e-mail but it's very easy for women to convey their beauty through pictures. It puts you at a huge disadvantage as a man
Probably your problem is, in a nutshell, you have convinced yourself that you are unattractive/awkward around women, and darn it, you fulfill your own expectations.
I was a bit like this in my teens. One way to overcome it is to continue your physical routines, as I am always preaching on here, "muscle up and make out" - it worked (after a fashion) for Arnold, and it will work for you too. You look good in your pictures. One venue would be to take it to the next level, so to speak.
Get good at something. I learned cars, for one thing. When I would come upon a "damsel in distress" and the distress was coming from her car, "thank you Jesus, thank you Lord" I would say, many casual dates from that.
By the time I was in college, I had indeed muscled up, and majoring in Physics at a liberal arts school, was considered "a brain" as well, that attracted some ladies.
You have to do whatever it takes so when you look in the mirror, you see an awesome dude that some gal will be really glad to meet. Up to you to figure out what that is.
That "something" that you need to get good at is conversation and seduction of women. He needs to go out and hit on girls constantly. The ability to attract is a skill. Would you suggest to someone trying to get good at math to practice swinging a baseball? Of course not. You'd tell him to go do tons of math problems until the subject made sense to him.
The reason is because it's hard to convey your charisma and personality through an e-mail but it's very easy for women to convey their beauty through pictures. It puts you at a huge disadvantage as a man
It's do-able. I have a few friends that are REALLY good at online dating. This is what they have told me.
For me, personally, I find talking to someone online for a little while to be extremely boring. I love flirting. I'm a huge flirt. But it's WAYYY better doing it in person. Online is lame and I don't have the patience for it.
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