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Of course women care about looks....but I don't think they put looks at nearly the priority as men do. I've known plenty of great looking men that were irritating, arrogant or boring... there's no amount of 'good looks' that would get me to date a guy like that.
I DO think that how a man makes a woman feel can and does trump attractiveness. There are women, of course, who will only go after good looking men, and good looking men will get most of the women. Will those women stick around? Are those women worth starting a relationship with? Maybe. Maybe not.
Are we talking about initial stage of dating or are we discussing long term implications. Because 9.9 times out of 10 you ladies are going to go with the best looking guy regardless. Personality usually only becomes a fact after the first date has been set.
Nothing wrong with wanting a great looking guy. Let's just call it the way it is. Good looks always supercede personality in the initial stages.
Are we talking about initial stage of dating or are we discussing long term implications. Because 9.9 times out of 10 you ladies are going to go with the best looking guy regardless. Personality usually only becomes a fact after the first date has been set.
Nothing wrong with wanting a great looking guy. Let's just call it the way it is. Good looks always supercede personality in the initial stages.
If you're super boring and have no personality to speak of, it will be tough even if you're handsome. A handsome/striking guy will get attention and looks and maybe some flirting in an open social setting, like a bar, but if his personality sucks, only the most shallow women will still be interested.
I've known plenty of great looking women that were irritating, arrogant and/or boring...
I also wasn't interested in them.
Excellent I do think this happens more often as men get older and (some) realize there's more to women then what they look like.
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Are we talking about initial stage of dating or are we discussing long term implications. Because 9.9 times out of 10 you ladies are going to go with the best looking guy regardless. Personality usually only becomes a fact after the first date has been set.
Nothing wrong with wanting a great looking guy. Let's just call it the way it is. Good looks always supercede personality in the initial stages.
I won't go on a date with a guy unless I know something about his personality. Why waste his time and mine? Perhaps that's why I have so many issues dating... I actually take my time to get to know someone and if our personalities don't mesh I'm not interested anymore.
As for the 'best looking guys' my girlfriends must be VERY odd then, because most of them have dated men who weren't anything special to look at.
My ex had an average build and boyish good looks. Some would consider him average because he didn't have a hot body, but he made up for it with his personality, outgoing attitude, had healthy interests and lifestyle, responsible, God fearing, funny, smart, articulate, warmth, great smile, and at times was generous to those he loved. He was loyal to his friends and family as well. He was also average height. It seems that most women would of passed him up based on that alone if they were shallow and superficial.
There was this handsome, extremely hot guy I was interested in turned out to be bipolar nightmare. And let me tell you, this guy was hot that everytime I was around him, I felt like I was on fire. He owned his own business, fantastic body, being 6'4" & 245 of pure muscle, dark, handsome, great smile, charming, smart, funny, and sexy, with similar interests, however he was emotionally unstable, a narcissist, drank during the day, and had a bit of a violent streak. He asked me out and I turned him down, mainly because I wasn't yet single (which I told him I wasn't) and also because I didn't feel safe with him for some reason. And this man was one of the sexiest men I've ever laid eyes on. Ideally, it would I so wanted him to be in the range of normal, but he wasn't. His emotional instability turned me off. That and he put me in a headlock one time when he took non physical light teasing too far. There were other things about him I would not waste time dealing with.
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I think this happens a lot more than what you give guys credit for
Perhaps, but I'm still fairly young so I haven't experienced it myself. The guys I know are still chasing barely legal women and couldn't care less if they have any thoughts in that pretty little head of theirs. I have a feelings things will start changing as they mature a bit, though.
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I do think this happens more often as men get older and (some) realize there's more to women then what they look like.
