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In relationships that were healthy, it was probably right around 3 months.
If something was off or not going well, it took longer.
IME, if there isn't some feeling of love or attachment around 3 months in, something is wrong with the relationship. Granted, I'm not 16 anymore. Also, if there isn't some emotional attachment 3 months in, I will take a hard look at the relationship.
One time, it took a woman about 5 months of dating to tell me she loved me. Even though I wasn't in love with her, I did love her in a way. So, I said it back. Probably the biggest mistake I ever made relationship wise. That relationship is history.
I remember when I was dating my husband, I felt early on like he was it. He took me out to dinner one night at about the 6 week mark, and told me he was falling in love with me. From that day forward we said it to each other every day.
My ex said it after 2 months. I wasnt' ready to say it back although, I remember getting this dizzy in love feeling about it but it scared me (I was only 19, first relationship..how do you make sense of such intense feelings??? lol) so I waited till the end of the weekend to say it back. I guess I just wanted to be sure.
My current boyfriend said it after a month and I wasn't ready to say it back again (man I'm cold! ). This time I didnt' get that dizzy in love feeling but he kept saying it so I felt pressured to say it back. At this point, I love him but I'm not in love with him. Its a pretty passionless relationship lol. Still haven't gotten the balls to end it yet. I will someday lol.
We started out LDR so I said it around 4 months into it on the phone. I was kind of suprised by her reaction, she kind of chuckled and said "oh the L word".
My Dansk ex told me 'elsker dig skat' quite often.
She must have been from Copenhagen. My wife is from Nordjylland (northern Jutland). The people from this region are the danish equivalent of Maine lobster-men.
About 6 weeks. I said it first. But we were also spending a lot of time together and still do.
As for when someone said it and I didn't feel the same, I simply said so. I apologized that I couldn't agree with the sentiment, but I would rather be honest than lie about my feelings.
About 4 months for me to say it. Men I've dated who have said it to me really early, always ended up loving me waaaayyyy more than I loved them. I've only been the first to say it once in my life, so I waited until I was sure.
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). This time I didnt' get that dizzy in love feeling but he kept saying it so I felt pressured to say it back. At this point, I love him but I'm not in love with him. Its a pretty passionless relationship lol. Still haven't gotten the balls to end it yet. I will someday lol.
