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Pretty straightforward question here on Valentine's Day---How long did it take for you to say it to your SO or for them to say it if they said it first?
My second question is how did you handle it when someone has said it to you, but you did not feel the same?
My last two boyfriends each took about three months to tell me they loved me. I was not quite ready to say it back either time. With my previous boyfriend I said it a few weeks later and with the current one I'm not sure those feelings would ever be there. I told him I needed more time but now that I've had time to think about it, I probably could have handled that better.
Not really the type to say it since my family is not really mushy and not really showy of our feelings. The first time I had someone say it to me and I say it back though was in my 40s with my now husband when he was trying to get in my pants while we were cuddling in his couch. We have been dating for a month only then.
I did not give in though. We just said I love yous that day. I did gave in few days later.
My problem now is I can't stop saying I love you to him every chance I get.
I was 25. My husband said it to me first around our 6 month mark. We were up in one of the VIP rooms at a megaclub in NYC. He had his back against the wall while I was in his arms looking out the window, watching the crowd down on the dance floor when he whispered into my ear his feelings. Ok, he probably had to yell it because the music was so loud. Either way, the feeling was mutual.
Prior to that I had one boyfriend tell me how much he loved me...after I had broken up with him (we were together for a little over year while in college.) He continued to pursue me for a number of years afterwards and he would tell me his feelings for me. It broke my heart because he was a nice guy, but the feelings weren't there on my end so he never heard those words from me.
In general, I'm not an emotional person, so you won't hear me tossing out the L-word so easily. I can kind of be a cold-hearted b*tch.
Pretty straightforward question here on Valentine's Day---How long did it take for you to say it to your SO or for them to say it if they said it first?
Two months After the first time it was said, we said it to each other very frequently thereafter, and each and every time was as magical as the first "ILY"...
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My second question is how did you handle it when someone has said it to you, but you did not feel the same?
With one exception (I felt the same way, so it was great), no one else ever really said it back, to me...so no real basis for comparison...
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My last two boyfriends each took about three months to tell me they loved me. I was not quite ready to say it back either time. With my previous boyfriend I said it a few weeks later and with the current one I'm not sure those feelings would ever be there. I told him I needed more time but now that I've had time to think about it, I probably could have handled that better.
Out of my main 3 relationships - I can't remember how long the first one took, the second one accidentally let it slip out after a few months, the third one (my husband) accidentally let it slip out after about a month or maybe less than a month. I don't think any of them planned on saying it. When the second one let it slip out - it was in front of other people so we didn't bring it up until a few days later. When my husband let it slip - it was hysterical - at first he tried to take it back because he thought it was too soon - and then he wanted me to say it back to him. Which I did because I already knew I was in love with him!
We started out LDR so I said it around 4 months into it on the phone. I was kind of suprised by her reaction, she kind of chuckled and said "oh the L word".
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with my now husband when he was trying to get in my pants while we were cuddling in his couch. We have been dating for a month only then.
My husband said it to me first around our 6 month mark. We were up in one of the VIP rooms at a megaclub in NYC. He had his back against the wall while I was in his arms looking out the window, watching the crowd down on the dance floor when he whispered into my ear his feelings. 
