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She's not interested, honestly. If she were, she would have been excited to hear from you and definitely would have texted you back. She may keep you on the back burner if she has another date or two lined up, but you're not first priority.
This actually sounds very realistic. However, I still vote for your giving it one last try tomorrow, just to satisfy your curiosity.
Just a small tip: try to avoid saying things like "if you're up for it", "if you wouldnt mind" etc etc... When aski g a girl out on a date. It shows that youre expecting to get shut down, and makes you seem like you lack confidence. Just assume she had the best time of her life, and cant wait for a second date and convey that mindset in your texts and conversations. Its all in the details, my friend.
Just a small tip: try to avoid saying things like "if you're up for it", "if you wouldnt mind" etc etc... When aski g a girl out on a date. It shows that youre expecting to get shut down, and makes you seem like you lack confidence. Just assume she had the best time of her life, and cant wait for a second date and convey that mindset in your texts and conversations. Its all in the details, my friend.
Agree. This is one main way I've improved in the last 5 years. Take control and keep it more concise next time. Your text sounded like a long rant that showed a lack of confidence.
For example you wrote "Hey, just wanted to say I had a great time meeting you last night and we should definitely get together again if you're up for it. Hope you're Tuesday is going well."
She knows you had a good time, otherwise you wouldn't be asking her on a 2nd date!
"If you're up for it" comes across as insecure/lacking confidence.
At the end of the day if this is how you were on a simple text, that would have come across on the date and possibly big time.
Just a small tip: try to avoid saying things like "if you're up for it", "if you wouldnt mind" etc etc... When aski g a girl out on a date. It shows that youre expecting to get shut down, and makes you seem like you lack confidence. Just assume she had the best time of her life, and cant wait for a second date and convey that mindset in your texts and conversations. Its all in the details, my friend.
you might be right , but, if the guy was a little too "confident" or straightforward,(at first) all the sudden the woman may call him creepy,,or pressuring her
woman say they just love confidence, until a confident guy is after them,,that they may or may not particularly want,
some woman are just very ambivalent at first, so you can easily push them away.
a lot of singles are shell-shocked coming out of bad relationships, it's not easy dating again, stirs up a lot of crap-sometimes its easier for a woman to run and hide,,than to overly expose herself when she's not ready-so, i'd be cautious putting her on the spot., take it slow
I think the guy did o.k., but give her a few days, let her make the move towards you.
you might be right , but, if the guy was a little too "confident" or straightforward,(at first) all the sudden the woman may call him creepy,,or pressuring her
woman say they just love confidence, until a confident guy is after them,,that they may or may not particularly want,
some woman are just very ambivalent at first, so you can easily push them away.
Not sure of the Op's age, but I'm guessing early 20's. When I was that age, girls would often describe me and cocky or over confident. Yet those same girls that were calling me that, flirted with me on occasions, hungout, I met friends of their friends through them, got intimate.
The key is, its much easier to go from cocky or over confident, to be assertive and confident. Than is is from lacking confidence, insercure, to be assertive and confident.
I wouldn't change anything I'd still rather be cocky or over confident than the flipside.
That said neither is Ideal and the Ideal is assertive and confident, as you mature sometimes it develops naturally.
So I just had a first date with a girl I met on POF last night. It was about a two hour first date that I thought went pretty well (especially considering some of the women I've met online). Anyways, towards the end of the night she went to get in a cab, we hugged, and in a very passing and quick way she said, "This was great. Hopefully see you soon." Now I didn't know if she was trying to just get in the cab as quick as possible or if she really meant it.
Anyways, I sent a text this afternoon saying, "Hey, just wanted to say I had a great time meeting you last night and we should definitely get together again if you're up for it. Hope you're Tuesday is going well." About an hour later I get a response (she normally takes a while to respond), "Hey. Super busy at work. How's you're Tuesday going?"
So firstly I was kind of bummed I didn't get a response to my implication, but I responded with how my Tuesday was going, and then asked another casual question (relating to something we discussed last night). I haven't heard anything since then.
Do you think I should just let this go, or should I maybe shoot her another text tomorrow trying again? Appreciate any help!
There's no right or wrong answer and no way of knowing how she feels yet but myself personally, I would await her reply before contacting her again.
It's hard to always field how a woman is thinking. In my experience, if a woman responds promptly to a text it doesn't always mean she's interested. I've had delayed responses where the woman was really into me, but forgot to respond when I sent the message. It's a mixed bag and you are never going to get the same answer twice. I always say to go with your gut.
The best bit of advice I do have is for how women make up their excuses for not texting you back. If she just says "busy" then leave it at that. She's not really busy, she just doesn't care to explain why she didn't text you back. In my experience, if a woman gave me a halfway legitimate message, I would continue to communicate. Busy is just like saying "working" or "tired." It doesn't convey a clear message and will usually cause most people to become a little anxious.
With dates, friendships, and relationships that have worked out for me with the opposite sex, I would get much more detail. For instance, "Sorry, I'm just getting back with you, a friend came over and we stayed up late chatting," or "Sorry, I've been tired all day from work and I fell asleep early," or "Sorry, I fell asleep texting you."
Don't get me wrong, a woman can just as easily be lying in these messages too, but in my experience, the ones that were lying would just keep the message to one word. When I've lied in the past, my text were the same way, "busy" or "tired."
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