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I don't understand the responses which emphatically say that "she's not interested in you". Maybe these people have so much time on their hands that they can blithely text away all day long but some people (like this young woman) have jobs. You know, those occupations you take on to earn money and where your employer expects you to actually do some work when he's paying you to do so?
When the date was over she didn't just slough off the evening with a curt goodbye but said, "This was great. Hopefully see you soon."
It was one date, you enjoyed yourself and now don't badger the woman with texts when she's working. She had a life before she met you and she'll continue to have one so best you get on with your own and don't be so desperate to find hidden meanings. No reason why you can't be direct and ask her if she'd like to go out again some time over the weekend but then leave it at that. Good luck.
I don't understand the responses which emphatically say that "she's not interested in you". Maybe these people have so much time on their hands that they can blithely text away all day long but some people (like this young woman) have jobs. You know, those occupations you take on to earn money and where your employer expects you to actually do some work when he's paying you to do so?
When the date was over she didn't just slough off the evening with a curt goodbye but said, "This was great. Hopefully see you soon."
It was one date, you enjoyed yourself and now don't badger the woman with texts when she's working. She had a life before she met you and she'll continue to have one so best you get on with your own and don't be so desperate to find hidden meanings. No reason why you can't be direct and ask her if she'd like to go out again some time over the weekend but then leave it at that. Good luck.
THANK YOU! I thought it was just me.
One date and she's supposed to be falling all over him? Yeesh, you people have high expectations. LOL
Maybe she liked him fine but, you know, has a life. They key now is not to come off like a creepy internet stalker, just wait a few days and try again... NOT during working hours this time. And ask if she's like to go out directly, none of this nambly pambly stuff.
Even if she says no it won't kill you OP. Too much angst.
Maybe she really was busy at work and unable to reply. I can use my phone at work if I need to, but a lot of people really can't. I'd text her this weekend and ask her for another date. If she says no, ignores the question, or doesn't reply, then you have the answer.
So I just had a first date with a girl I met on POF last night. It was about a two hour first date that I thought went pretty well (especially considering some of the women I've met online). Anyways, towards the end of the night she went to get in a cab, we hugged, and in a very passing and quick way she said, "This was great. Hopefully see you soon." Now I didn't know if she was trying to just get in the cab as quick as possible or if she really meant it.
Anyways, I sent a text this afternoon saying, "Hey, just wanted to say I had a great time meeting you last night and we should definitely get together again if you're up for it. Hope you're Tuesday is going well." About an hour later I get a response (she normally takes a while to respond), "Hey. Super busy at work. How's you're Tuesday going?"
So firstly I was kind of bummed I didn't get a response to my implication, but I responded with how my Tuesday was going, and then asked another casual question (relating to something we discussed last night). I haven't heard anything since then.
Do you think I should just let this go, or should I maybe shoot her another text tomorrow trying again? Appreciate any help!
You should let this go.
That said, I don't think you handled it badly. My general approach is to send a generic text the day after a date. It would be something along the lines of 'How's your day going?' The suggestion I have next time is to not mention seeing each other again in your initial follow-up text. As others said, do not say 'if you're up for it.' She either is or is not up for it and, soon enough, you will find out.
If you send a generic text the next day and get a warm response, you're likely to get another date. If you get no response or a cold response (like the one you received), it's better to back off.
I don't think my approach is overly aggressive, but I know people who are even more passive than I. If the girl has their phone number, they won't text her and will wait for her to text them (or not). I do not recommend this approach, as it puts pressure on a girl who doesn't know you very well. There are times when the girl will go out with you again, but would prefer that you initiate.
So I just had a first date with a girl I met on POF last night. It was about a two hour first date that I thought went pretty well (especially considering some of the women I've met online). Anyways, towards the end of the night she went to get in a cab, we hugged, and in a very passing and quick way she said, "This was great. Hopefully see you soon." Now I didn't know if she was trying to just get in the cab as quick as possible or if she really meant it.
Anyways, I sent a text this afternoon saying, "Hey, just wanted to say I had a great time meeting you last night and we should definitely get together again if you're up for it. Hope you're Tuesday is going well." About an hour later I get a response (she normally takes a while to respond), "Hey. Super busy at work. How's you're Tuesday going?"
So firstly I was kind of bummed I didn't get a response to my implication, but I responded with how my Tuesday was going, and then asked another casual question (relating to something we discussed last night). I haven't heard anything since then.
Do you think I should just let this go, or should I maybe shoot her another text tomorrow trying again? Appreciate any help!
My next attempt to contact her would be to call her and if you get the voicemail then it's probably over.
Stop texting! It's THE most informal way of communicating....worse than writing letters and sending them by federal mail! If I was her I wouldn't take you serious until you picked up the phone (like a man)!
I don't understand the responses which emphatically say that "she's not interested in you". Maybe these people have so much time on their hands that they can blithely text away all day long but some people (like this young woman) have jobs. You know, those occupations you take on to earn money and where your employer expects you to actually do some work when he's paying you to do so?
When the date was over she didn't just slough off the evening with a curt goodbye but said, "This was great. Hopefully see you soon."
It was one date, you enjoyed yourself and now don't badger the woman with texts when she's working. She had a life before she met you and she'll continue to have one so best you get on with your own and don't be so desperate to find hidden meanings. No reason why you can't be direct and ask her if she'd like to go out again some time over the weekend but then leave it at that. Good luck.
Who said anything about blithely texting away all day long? She had time to reply once, and if she really cared, she'd get in touch with him. It might come as a shock to you, but I'm gainfully employed and managed to text someone back after having a date with them to tell them that "YES! I'd like to go out again." Because I'm into him. People don't work 24 hrs a day and believe it or not, most even get breaks while they work! *gasp*
I don't understand these responses that imply people who take the time to reply to someone must not be employed or must have no life.
My next attempt to contact her would be to call her and if you get the voicemail then it's probably over.
If it were me, I wouldn't call her at this point. You have better-than-circumstantial evidence that she's not interested and you don't know her that well. You've expressed desire to see her again, which hasn't been reciprocated. A phone call at this stage would be very awkward. I do not recommend calling at this point.
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