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OP, women your age to do not prefer experience, that's ridiculous. (OK, maybe a few shallow women do, but they wouldn't be your type.) Women like guys who treat them right and who are fun to be with. There are women your age who are late bloomers, too. It almost sounds like you're looking for reasons to justify your dropping out of the scene, and your sense of awkwardness.
The next time a situation arises in which you're asked to explain (hopefully there won't be a next time, if you play your cards right), just good-naturedly laugh it off and say "Classified Information" "X-rated", or whatever, to brush it off. Depending on the circumstances and who is asking (a relative, say), you could say you haven't found the right girl yet.
Last edited by Ruth4Truth; 03-03-2013 at 12:21 PM..
The next time a situation arises in which you're asked to explain (hopefully there won't be a next time, if you play your cards right), just good-naturedly laugh it off and say "Classified Information" "X-rated", or whatever, to brush it off. Depending on the circumstances and who is asking (a relative, say), you could say you haven't found the right girl yet.
Agree with this ^^^.
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Originally Posted by hyperion88
if questioned again about my personal sex life...should I be honest or make up anything believable that comes to mind?
I find "none of your business" to be useful words as well! (It's your PERSONAL life, why on earth would anyone feel entitled to know your personal business?!)
Thank goodness my family doesn't ask me these questions. In fact the topic of relationships is one that rarely if ever came up in family discussions. The vast majority of them centered around college and work.
Political correct answer is always "honesty is the best policy".
You are not too old by the way. So it really doesn't matter what you say, I don't think people would consider you as abnormal. Some dudes are late bloomers, nothing wrong with it. Plus, a lot of women would find men with standard to be appealing. Don't worry about what others think.
However, I know a 47 year old virgin. He's just odd. If you are that age and still a virgin (NOT by choice) there are definitely something wrong with you.
I wouldn't say there is anything wrong but definitely unusual in this society. Unless he was asexual I would just think he had high standards or very shy.
OP there are many women your age who won't care you are inexperienced.
Well..a couple of weeks ago I attended a family wedding and at the party some of us joined and started discussing about relationships and sex....the thing is that I am completely inexperienced with women and a good friend of mine that is aware of this fact, after putting down a couple of shots made my delicate situation public and announced to our small group of about 17 souls that I had and quote " never seen a woman's bare breast or felt the warm touch of a lady's lips against mine"...now of course that statement is partially false...I have watched porn along with Cinemax and HBO and am aware of what a woman's bare breast looks like....the thing is that after his reveling announcement...I had to somewhat explain my lack of intimacy with the opposite sex to the 17 surprised folks....I had no idea of what to say other than that always helpful cliche..." it just never happened"....after that I felt like a croc among alligators...
Between the ages of 16 and 21 I did ask a lot of women out...but I eventually got tired and started paying more attention to other aspects of my life....so it's been over 3 years that I don't approach any girl..and never once a woman approached me with any romantic interest...sometimes I feel very lonely but it's manageable.....so my question to you is:
Does the void inside gets bigger as time passes?
At my age ( 24 to 25) and after the " time off" feels very difficult to get back on the saddle and start approaching again..it's like women ( at least my age) have a preference for experience..
if questioned again about my personal sex life...should I be honest or make up anything believable that comes to mind?
Thanks for your time and apologies for the long boring story!..
Because your friend wants to be the hot shot and you're too awkward to use his ego-boosting to your advantage and cool it off. Just imagine if you said to him the "are you hitting on me? I'm still not gay!" That'd land him down and give completely different impression. But it's all about the fact that you don't have such factor to react "in the heat of the moment" to pass the ball.
Regarding honesty or dishonesty. I'm a virgin myself. I see nothing strange with myself. But I know how the society goes in USA (especially given that I'm a man and 27 y/o) and special factor is not the fact of how society goes. I'm not going to deny it when asked. I'm rather going to avoid bringing it to discussion or going around yelling about it. But since lots of folks might find it awkward with it, I'm upfront when such story comes out of when situation might demand me to give other person to knowledge about it.
Strangely enough, only a very small portion of women that I dated even got to hear that fact. And I've dumped every single woman I dated in USA, not the reverse... for other reasons. It happened each time when I became convinced with their personality display that they're not what I was looking for - serious relationship and starting a family. I'm not buying into the need that I'm missing something. But I'm not buying into the fact that I should marry a woman who "had to do her best not to miss something" either.
Here's the thing that instantly boosts your self-esteem. Socializing with your good friends or work colleagues, don't miss those chances. Be around. Just don't be around to drink tons of alcohol the whole night again and again, that's not really much of a socializing. talking with a coffee or eventually a drink or two is good way to socialize. Get a job as well if you don't have one, or seek for any employment - being jobless and without any set goal when you wake up can really do a lot of damage on people. Best way to deal with it is to socialize with your friends and do your work/studies... or to seriously seek employment, and help your parents doing all the housework in the mean time, if you live with them.
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