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Please stay away from these types of questions during the first 10 mins of a first conversation because the conversation boring and doesn't create any opportunities for laughing and pleasant phone talk
what do you do for a living?
Do you like it?
Where do u go to college?
Where do u see yourself in 5 years?
Do you live alone?
Do you drive?
All those questions give off a "JUDGMENTAL VIBE" and makes the conversation too scripted and boring.
Instead these questions below are the ones people should be asking to generate a light and fun conversation so the conversation can take off and move in the right direction.
So are ready for the spring season?
Do you prefer spring or summer?
How long have you been on the dating service?
Have u met anyone off there yet?
So are u nervous on 1st dates?
What are someone your 1st dates ideas?
What type of food do u enjoy eating the most
Have you been this restaurant?
What do u do in your spare time?
See how all those questions would make a conversation fun and enjoyable and then u can eventually lead into what someone does for a living. I am so tired of hanging up on women for asking me dumb questions in the 5 mins like I being evaluated.
All those questions give off a "JUDGMENTAL VIBE" and makes the conversation too scripted and boring.
Instead these questions below are the ones people should be asking to generate a light and fun conversation so the conversation can take off and move in the right direction.
So are ready for the spring season?
Do you prefer spring or summer?
How long have you been on the dating service?
Have u met anyone off there yet?
So are u nervous on 1st dates?
What are someone your 1st dates ideas?
What type of food do u enjoy eating the most
Have you been this restaurant?
What do u do in your spare time?
See how all those questions would make a conversation fun and enjoyable and then u can eventually lead into what someone does for a living. I am so tired of hanging up on women for asking me dumb questions in the 5 mins like I being evaluated.
(btw, men ask boring and judgmental questions too. It goes both ways)
At the end of the day though, you can't worry about it. If someone dismisses you so early because of something you said or didn't say, then so be it.
Also, I would never ask a guy what his 1st date ideas are or what he does in his spare time. That is something I feel you should find out about each other over time and he will volunteer that info naturally and when he wants to.
I guess you would have hung up on me then, because I don't think of asking about someone's job as being judgmental. I think of it as showing interest and finding something to talk about.
Where do you see yourself in 5 years? That is a question for a hiring manager. LOL A person can envision one thing or have a particular goal, but that doesn't mean that life is going to let that happen. Five years ago, I thought that, at this point, I was going to be happily married - or at least still happy with the same guy - and wowzers, was I wrong.
If you are getting asked some of those questions (that you don't feel comfortable with), maybe the caller is cutting to the chase, not wasting her time either. I would wonder why someone doesn't drive, but I wouldn't think to ask the question. I realize that I shouldn't assume anything, but that's what I would have done - assume that the other person knows how to drive.
I'm actually surprised that asking about having met someone IRL from a dating site or being nervous on 1st dates wouldn't seem somewhat intrusive. It wouldn't bother me, necessarily, I'm pretty open to talk about anything, but I know someone who would think those questions aren't anyone's business. *shrugging*
I guess you would have hung up on me then, because I don't think of asking about someone's job as being judgmental. I think of it as showing interest and finding something to talk about.
Where do you see yourself in 5 years? That is a question for a hiring manager. LOL A person can envision one thing or have a particular goal, but that doesn't mean that life is going to let that happen. Five years ago, I thought that, at this point, I was going to be happily married - or at least still happy with the same guy - and wowzers, was I wrong.
If you are getting asked some of those questions (that you don't feel comfortable with), maybe the caller is cutting to the chase, not wasting her time either. I would wonder why someone doesn't drive, but I wouldn't think to ask the question. I realize that I shouldn't assume anything, but that's what I would have done - assume that the other person knows how to drive.
I'm actually surprised that asking about having met someone IRL from a dating site or being nervous on 1st dates wouldn't seem somewhat intrusive. It wouldn't bother me, necessarily, I'm pretty open to talk about anything, but I know someone who would think those questions aren't anyone's business. *shrugging*
All the questions about someone's job can be discussed during the 1st conversation but just not in the first 5 mins.
All the questions about someone's job can be discussed during the 1st conversation but just not in the first 5 mins.
And do you let the other person know this? Do you tell the other person, "Look, questions concerning X, Y and Z are off limits for the first ____ minutes of our conversation"? Am I understanding correctly that it could be a good conversation, but if the questions come at the wrong time, you will lose interest?
Please stay away from these types of questions during the first 10 mins of a first conversation because the conversation boring and doesn't create any opportunities for laughing and pleasant phone talk
what do you do for a living?
Do you like it?
Where do u go to college?
Where do u see yourself in 5 years?
Do you live alone?
Do you drive?
All those questions give off a "JUDGMENTAL VIBE" and makes the conversation too scripted and boring.
Instead these questions below are the ones people should be asking to generate a light and fun conversation so the conversation can take off and move in the right direction.
So are ready for the spring season?
Do you prefer spring or summer?
How long have you been on the dating service?
Have u met anyone off there yet?
So are u nervous on 1st dates?
What are someone your 1st dates ideas?
What type of food do u enjoy eating the most
Have you been this restaurant?
What do u do in your spare time?
See how all those questions would make a conversation fun and enjoyable and then u can eventually lead into what someone does for a living. I am so tired of hanging up on women for asking me dumb questions in the 5 mins like I being evaluated.
MAKE IT FUN CONVERSATION!!!!!!!!
Questions that put anyone on the "spot" are not only rude, but out of place as well.
You should be warming things up, not "snooping" for answers that you DEMAND!
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