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So I'm 27 and so is my boyfriend of about 6 months. We both work an are paid relatively well. In the beginning of the relationship, he would always pay for our dates. He treated me really well, always cooked us dinner if we stayed in, always drives, he was such a gentlemen.
Well now that we are a little closer, he has said that he would appreciate it if I could pick up the tab occasionally or maybe cook us dinner instead of him every now and then. I was taken aback. He knows I can't cook and I like to treated like a lady. What should I tell him? I'm traditonal in that sense.
Yep. You are the problem with women in my age group today. No domestic skills, offer nothing but sex in a relationship, and still expect to be taken care of like we are your daddy. Unreal.
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So I'm 27 and so is my boyfriend of about 6 months. We both work an are paid relatively well. In the beginning of the relationship, he would always pay for our dates. He treated me really well, always cooked us dinner if we stayed in, always drives, he was such a gentlemen.
Well now that we are a little closer, he has said that he would appreciate it if I could pick up the tab occasionally or maybe cook us dinner instead of him every now and then. I was taken aback. He knows I can't cook and I like to treated like a lady. What should I tell him? I'm traditonal in that sense.
Tell him you won't cook or pay. Hopefully after that he decides he wants a more equal partner and drops you.
If you're traditional, shouldn't you learn how to cook for your man? Or at least have him teach you a few dishes?
It's not entirely unreasonable for him to expect you to shoulder some of the expense of dating. What exactly are you contributing to this relationship if he's being a gentleman, paying for everything, and even paying for your stay-in dates?
(BTW, I'm always suspicious of these first time posters proposing provocative scenarios.)
You're not all that traditional if you're working and have few domestic skills. Ante up for the date part of the time or risk losing his respect and interest. You can afford it. A relationship is a partnership, and you're not acting like an invested partner.
You should tell him to dump you because you have entitlement issues?
It's completely ironic that you are "traditional" and want to be treated like a lady, when you have none of the "traditional" skills. Pretty one sided isn't it?
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I thought traditional means that the woman cooks for the man. Am I totally off?
Don't you feel bad that he always has to pay and cook for you? Why do you think you don't have to contribute anything? You sound pretty selfish to me, not traditional. Just selfish.
So I'm 27 and so is my boyfriend of about 6 months. We both work an are paid relatively well. In the beginning of the relationship, he would always pay for our dates. He treated me really well, always cooked us dinner if we stayed in, always drives, he was such a gentlemen.
Well now that we are a little closer, he has said that he would appreciate it if I could pick up the tab occasionally or maybe cook us dinner instead of him every now and then. I was taken aback. He knows I can't cook and I like to treated like a lady. What should I tell him? I'm traditonal in that sense.
If you're traditional, shouldn't you learn how to cook for your man? Or at least have him teach you a few dishes?
It's not entirely unreasonable for him to expect you to shoulder some of the expense of dating. What exactly are you contributing to this relationship if he's being a gentleman, paying for everything, and even paying for your stay-in dates?
(BTW, I'm always suspicious of these first time posters proposing provocative scenarios.)
Well I'm giving him me. I'm very attractive and can have just about any man I choose. We have sex all the time and I please him. Isn't that enough for a girl to do?
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