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It used to be I was open about myself dating women once we broke the ice and got more comfortable in conversation. Just about all of these women claimed to be really open minded and "allied" or whatever you wanted to call it. As soon as I mentioned I was bisexual all the sudden the wall came up, and even though I could read their prior body language they didn't want to pursue the relationship any further unless you meant platonic friends. I noticed this pattern from "open minded" young women... so now whenever I date women I just don't mention it anymore. Has anyone else seen this? How do you handle being yourself? I saw this poll that said about 20% of people in this forum are bisexual or think they are. What's the deal anyway, if you're allied you shouldn't have a problem with this.
There is no question that in the minds of many people, male and female, male bisexuality violates some unspoken Law of Manhood that female bisexuality doesn't. A lot of prejudice still exists against bisexual men, even among seemingly "progressive" women.
That said, bisexuals have largely failed to challenge the prejudice against them by refusing to come out. Unlike gays and lesbians, who have to come out in order to live normal lives, bisexuals have the option of passing themselves off as straight to the outside world, and many choose to remain closeted.
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The answers in this thread are a reason why bisexual men lie. If you're gonna cheat with someone else, woman or man, you're not going to tell someone 'just to let you know, I may cheat on you'. Being true to your partner is the same whether you're bi or straight, so I don't see why your sexuality would be a problem if you're exclusive and don't have an STD. I think the real reason is that a lot of women still don't accept bi guys as real, or they think they're more promiscuous. How many women rejected men who have had anal sex with other women in the past?
I personally am not bi so it doesn't affect me, and I respect that 'preference'. But bi women do won't date bi men are mainly just hypocrites, unless they have a really good reason. I wouldn't want to date a bi women who wouldn't date a bi man.
It used to be I was open about myself dating women once we broke the ice and got more comfortable in conversation. Just about all of these women claimed to be really open minded and "allied" or whatever you wanted to call it. As soon as I mentioned I was bisexual all the sudden the wall came up, and even though I could read their prior body language they didn't want to pursue the relationship any further unless you meant platonic friends. I noticed this pattern from "open minded" young women... so now whenever I date women I just don't mention it anymore. Has anyone else seen this? How do you handle being yourself? I saw this poll that said about 20% of people in this forum are bisexual or think they are. What's the deal anyway, if you're allied you shouldn't have a problem with this.
Usually the people who claim to be the most open minded(I.e. liberals) are usually the biggest hypocrites, biggest racist there are. Just read some of the comments on here, oh we love gays/bi people blah, blah, blah, but then they turn around and state their disdain for bi men.
No decent intelligent woman would consider dating a so-called "bi-sexual" male. In my opinion you might just be a common hedonist who can get pleasure from either sex. Some males have no problem getting oral sex or sex from a woman OR a male. Usually so-called bi-sexual males are self serving pleasure seekers. You probably have nothing of substance to offer a serious woman.
If I were a woman and was dating a so-called bi-sexual...it would be disturbing to know that the penis entering my body had the night before been in an anus. Why would a woman with a healthy brain tolerate such a person. I suggest that you make up your mind on what sex you want to be with. I doubt that you are gay...But I am sure you were introduced to gay sex as a young person and it "felt good"...If you want a serious future with a female..you had better give up males...You can't have your cake and eat it too/
There is no secure future in dating a bi-sexual female either. Serious people demand love and total loyalty. My son was checking out a dating site for young people...a lot of the woman thought it would be cool and attractive to describe themselves as bi-sexual. In fact we saw the former girlfriend of a friend who was not bi-sexual who advertised herself as such. My son had one comment on the so-called bi-sexual female....."It hard enough in this competitive world to ward off male interlopers- why would I want to double my anxiety and insecurity with having to ward of female intruders into the relationship?"
There is this new attitude and fashion trend that bi-sexuality is cool and sophisticated...There is really no future in such a life style if you are looking for a future with a mate. If you partake in this modernity - you might have a great and wild party and sex life but you will end up an old loser in the end.
Smart people are looking forward to a future- not just the next future orgasm.
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