I am a bisexual man, but when it comes to dating women I no longer mention anything about it (wife, kissing)
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OP, it probably has to do with insecurity that you could go fully gay at any point in the relationship or the thought that you kissed and slept with other men.
I can see their point of view, especially if you lean towards males and change your mind down the road.
Women don't want their guy to end up gay and be dumped for another man! Huge blow to their ego and reputation.
It is, and it's scary. OP, why not just date men? I mean, men, and shemales are better suited for bisexual men since they have everything you will need. Why be with a real woman?
To me it would be relevant. I always ask upfront if they had or have any intimate feelings or fantasies with guys. They have been pretty honest about it though but to most of these bisexual guys it's about sex only Mod cut: language; not PG-13. be it man or woman so to me that is a big turn off and wouldn't date someone that slutty. Being dumped for a guy well no one has a gaydar so I think women have to be very observant otherwise it would come as a traumatic shock to them that there boyfriend was secretly gay all along.
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Originally Posted by MIKEETC
Getting dumped is getting dumped.ne
[who cares for who or for what you were dumped?]
They think you are promiscous and judge you no different than they would a bisexual woman. If you keep it from them and they find out in this small world that you are bi later on in your relationship it will deeply hurt them and will break any honesty and trust you have with that person. You have to find maybe a person who understands such as a bisexual woman.
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Originally Posted by F2BBS
It used to be I was open about myself dating women once we broke the ice and got more comfortable in conversation. Just about all of these women claimed to be really open minded and "allied" or whatever you wanted to call it. As soon as I mentioned I was bisexual all the sudden the wall came up, and even though I could read their prior body language they didn't want to pursue the relationship any further unless you meant platonic friends. I noticed this pattern from "open minded" young women... so now whenever I date women I just don't mention it anymore. Has anyone else seen this? How do you handle being yourself? I saw this poll that said about 20% of people in this forum are bisexual or think they are. What's the deal anyway, if you're allied you shouldn't have a problem with this.
It used to be I was open about myself dating women once we broke the ice and got more comfortable in conversation. Just about all of these women claimed to be really open minded and "allied" or whatever you wanted to call it. As soon as I mentioned I was bisexual all the sudden the wall came up, and even though I could read their prior body language they didn't want to pursue the relationship any further unless you meant platonic friends. I noticed this pattern from "open minded" young women... so now whenever I date women I just don't mention it anymore. Has anyone else seen this? How do you handle being yourself? I saw this poll that said about 20% of people in this forum are bisexual or think they are. What's the deal anyway, if you're allied you shouldn't have a problem with this.
I am very open minded. However, I still wouldn't date a bisexual man (once I found out he was bisexual). I just wouldn't be able to get past the thought of him having sex with another man. It just creeps me out. I want the man I am dating and having sex with to be into women...ONLY!!! Please don't get offended. I am sure there has got to be other women who have no problem with it. But I am not one of them.
I'm bisexual. I dated more men than women, probably because guys asked me out and very rarely asked me out. I have dated a bisexual man. The idea of two hot men having sex is a turn on for me, so a bisexual man was a non-issue for me.
If/when the topic comes up, let your dates know that you are bisexual. I would imagine bisexual women are an easier sell. Some straight men have a problem with bisexual women. Some lesbians won't date bisexual women. It's not worth getting too worried about in my opinion. People are attracted to what they are attracted to and it's best to just accept it and move on.
It used to be I was open about myself dating women once we broke the ice and got more comfortable in conversation. Just about all of these women claimed to be really open minded and "allied" or whatever you wanted to call it. As soon as I mentioned I was bisexual all the sudden the wall came up, and even though I could read their prior body language they didn't want to pursue the relationship any further unless you meant platonic friends. I noticed this pattern from "open minded" young women... so now whenever I date women I just don't mention it anymore. Has anyone else seen this? How do you handle being yourself? I saw this poll that said about 20% of people in this forum are bisexual or think they are. What's the deal anyway, if you're allied you shouldn't have a problem with this.
I would keep this to myself.
Plus, chances are, the woman you are dating is revealing very little to you about her sexual past.
You may not want to wait years to say anything, if you want to say anything at all, but I would at least wait a good while.
Plus, chances are, the woman you are dating is revealing very little to you about her sexual past.
You may not want to wait years to say anything, if you want to say anything at all, but I would at least wait a good while.
What is the purpose of waiting then?
You don't think the woman has the right to know her potential boyfriend's sexual orientation?
If she accepts it, it doesn't matter he tells her the first day or not. If she cannot accepts it, at least she can respect him for being honest and upfront.
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Huge blow to their ego and reputation.
