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I dated a guy for 5 months and we didn't have any physical intimacy so EVERY month he initiates 'the talk'. Still he didn't get any. He is the type that let's the woman initiates, I don't so it went on and on until the 5th month when I felt pressured by him asking why we don't even kiss and I drank smirnoff... LOL. I kissed him - ON THE CHEEK! LOL! And I initiate it.
Later I told him it was just the smirnoff and that he better not expect that I kiss him every time we see each other. He understands. But after giving me a sarcastic answer.
Needless to say nothing happened again because the next time we met we broke up.
It depends on you, if you are not comfy you can always say no. I don't like being forced what I don't want to do and I make sure I don't do anything I don't want to do, no matter what.
Now my husband .. he moves fast. I told him I was not ready. I liked that he respected that I was not ready. Next time though, I just agreed because he makes me feel comfortable and safe. I never felt that way to any guy and I told him that. HE is very respectful/gentle so I like that about him. He did not force me so that was how he got lucky. LOL.
Yes, but isn't it true if that's the case he would have moved on anyway
No, I think that's a faulty assumption and way too broad of a generalization. When a person is attracted to another person, they usually want to be physically intimate with that person, and want the attraction and desire to be mutual. If it is, they're likely to want to stay with that person. If it isn't, they're likely to move on to someone who is as interested in intimacy as they are.
*blinks* I'll give up a kiss on the first date and not give it a second's thought. Did I just get a lot of dates for being easy? You know, word got around.
Kissing someone is just not something that I can do if there isn't a lot of sparks and chemistry going on, AND a feeling of trust and sincerity there. It usually takes me getting to know someone a bit, almost always more than one or two dates, before those elements exist. Not always...but most of the time.
Just too many weird icky people out there for me to kiss them "without a thought".
Kissing someone is just not something that I can do if there isn't a lot of sparks and chemistry going on, AND a feeling of trust and sincerity there. It usually takes me getting to know someone a bit, almost always more than one or two dates, before those elements exist. Not always...but most of the time.
Just too many weird icky people out there for me to kiss them "without a thought".
And if a guy is not getting a kiss on date one or 2 then he might be assuming you think he is a wierd icky guy and thus not want to spend more time and money on dates since you said yourself there are times you ARE willing to kiss a guy early on.
If your not one of the guys that women feel comfortable around then the money and time might be better spent improving himself so that he can get that kiss on the first date and sex on the third.
If your not one of the guys that women feel comfortable around then the money and time might be better spent improving himself so that he can get that kiss on the first date and sex on the third.
Or he could just go with the flow, watch her body language and actions and accept that she likes him a lot but isn't going to sleep with him because of an arbitrary timetable.
Kissing someone is just not something that I can do if there isn't a lot of sparks and chemistry going on, AND a feeling of trust and sincerity there. It usually takes me getting to know someone a bit, almost always more than one or two dates, before those elements exist. Not always...but most of the time.
Just too many weird icky people out there for me to kiss them "without a thought".
How icky are they if you're agreeing to more dates with them? If I didn't feel comfortable kissing them, I didn't like them enough to go on more dates with them.
And if a guy is not getting a kiss on date one or 2 then he might be assuming you think he is a wierd icky guy and thus not want to spend more time and money on dates since you said yourself there are times you ARE willing to kiss a guy early on.
If your not one of the guys that women feel comfortable around then the money and time might be better spent improving himself so that he can get that kiss on the first date and sex on the third.
You like your schedules for sex don't you highlife.
I don't think you're ever going to find a woman that has a strict schedule of sex after or before 3 dates.
Or he could just go with the flow, watch her body language and actions and accept that she likes him a lot but isn't going to sleep with him because of an arbitrary timetable.
Why should guys accept that when they know that there are guys that women will have sex with early on, why not just shoot to be that guy. It is unbelivibly frustrating to have to be that guy that has to go on endless dates to let a woman feel things out, she is either into you or she is not, very seldom will a month of dating result in anything.
You never see iron man going on 20 dates before he get a peck on the cheek with side hugs lol. Its obviously a movie but you get the point.
You like your schedules for sex don't you highlife.
I don't think you're ever going to find a woman that has a strict schedule of sex after or before 3 dates.
Are you sure about that? They are more difficult to find but when I do I hold on. I have a gf now btw, so you can surmise the rest.
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huh? 
