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My wedding costs were the rings, cheap, and getting married at the courthouse. Just celebrated our 12 year anniversary. I have a realistic view of marriage and know that there's a 50% chance we can or can't make it so I didn't want a wedding. My sister who had a 30k wedding is divorcing after 5 years.
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Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life
1) Loans/credit cards
2) Parents pay for it
3) Some people CAN afford it.
No, getting married does not HAVE to cost that much. BUt $30K is the average for a wedding.
Say WHAT! 30G IS THE AVERAGE COST FOR A WEDDING! That's insane...I would rather spend that kind of money to build an addition on my house,newer boat,newer truck,save for a rainy day or ANYTHING other than **** it away like that.
I don't know anyone who has spent anywhere near that much on a wedding.
Say WHAT! 30G IS THE AVERAGE COST FOR A WEDDING! That's insane...I would rather spend that kind of money to build an addition on my house,newer boat,newer truck,save for a rainy day or ANYTHING other than **** it away like that.
I don't know anyone who has spent anywhere near that much on a wedding.
My sister's was $60k. Most people seem to be in the $20k to $40k range. I wonder what my friend paid in India. I went to it and it was 3 days long and was crazy huge. You cannot know this many people Nisha!
This pretty much sums it up simply and accurately.
Sadly, I might add.... If you find yourself struggling/stressed about spending 30k/50K for a wedding, then either you or your parents are not at least middle to upper class.
Middle to upper class incomes can afford such weddings without excessive credit card debt.
And if you can't afford such a wedding, then scale it down.
Starting a marriage with 20K in wedding debt is not a good way to start a marriage.
There is always going to be the, "what do I want?" vs, "what can I afford?" issue.
Yep. And I would add that spending like you're middle/upper middle class when you're not greatly reduces the chances that you'll ever be in a better financial situation.
It's not about affording something, it's about whether you believe that is a good way to spend money or not. For instance, I can pay $50k for a wedding in cash since I have more than that in savings...however, I don't want to spend more than $20k for a wedding + ring + honeymoon and that is ONLY because of societal pressure and my thoughts that I have not met a SINGLE woman who would not SCOFF at a $10k wedding.
IF I had my way I would spend $500 and get married in a courthouse, again, not because I do not have the cash but because I would rather spend it on my future children, on a house or other more important things in life. Makes sense? Or am I in the minority for thinking this way?
I dont know anyone who spent 50K on a wedding. I only know one person who spent as much as 10K on a wedding.
It dosent even cost 500 to get married. License cost what $100 at most then maybe a small fee for the official. Its your own fault if you cave at "societal pressure" or date material women.
No it does not. Find a woman who is happy with a small ring and wedding band, who don't mind getting married at the county courthouse, and who realizes it makes no difference where you go on the honeymoon anyway since you (if you are doing it right) will spend most of it in bed.
Getting married does NOT have to cost that much. Our wedding was just under $10k. Wedding bands were under $500 together. My engagement ring was under $1000. We had a small and simple outdoor wedding with 50 guests. I think the reception with open bar was $8000. Oh and my wedding dress was less than $500, and I bought it off the rack - no bridal gown here. I also did not have a bridal party.
We could have done in much more inexpensively too, but I wanted to have a really nice dinner and drinks.
We also did not have a honeymoon.
To get married you do not *need* all of those things. Who *needs* a $5000 engagement ring. That's insane.
what if one person wanted to get married at a courthouse and have a small ceremony at a restaurant etc. for a total of under $10k and the other wanted a more elaborate wedding spending $20-30k, do you think that couple would be incompatible financially and should not get married at all?
I dont know anyone who spent 50K on a wedding. I only know one person who spent as much as 10K on a wedding.
It dosent even cost 500 to get married. License cost what $100 at most then maybe a small fee for the official. Its your own fault if you cave at "societal pressure" or date material women.
It's not the actual wedding ceremony that's what's expensive, from what I've seen. It's the flowers and the open bar and the food and the band/DJ, etc. A lot of people want to throw a great party to celebrate, and great party can be pricey.
Wedding on a cliff overlooking the ocean in a private botanic garden in Maui
Photographer
Insanely good food (several courses)
Wedding cake
Booze
Limo
Celebrity uke player
Officiator
for 30 people = $7000
Better than any $30k+ wedding I have ever been to.
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