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Which means he's an involuntary virgin until that happens.
So let me tell you this. You go on and start hitting on women at the age of 16, roaming around and trying to get a date constantly. A few girls kiss you, some even date you. One of them will sleep with you before you're 18, that's a given. And in fact, guys like that can quickly sleep with several girls once they get one, all within the same year.
The way you speak of it is as if you're an outcast. Such guys aren't some hot shots. They are usually the future losers in most cases but guess what, they are always among the first ones to "bang" someone around. So much about it. It's like arguing that a 16 y/o woman is alone on involuntary basis. If she displays constant desire to date someone, she'll quickly find suitors over time, it's just a matter of time and her deliberate desire for it and signals that she is "available" for dating.
Any adult person who is a virgin is a virgin due to "personal choice".
Not so - you speak from privilege here. Some have lack of opportunity. Some are medically or psychologically incapable. Some have social issues preventing them. Some live in societies where loss of virginity is frowned upon or even received with violence. Some are homosexual where acting on such is taught to be evil so they have to suppress it for fear of social shunning – violence – or even death.
I am a 22 year old girl and even though people tell me I'm pretty, men look at me quite a bit and I get hit on, I never had a real bf and I am still a virgin. I've had occasions in the past but I just never did anything about it because I don't want my first time to be with someone that I either don't truly love or that I love but doesn't really love me... I don't want it to be a casual hook up either. I'm quite shy I must admit, it can take me a bit of time to feel really comfortable with a guy, and I'm also not a girly-girl who falls in love every 2 months and within a few days. Even when I'm attracted and troubled by a guy, I need to take the time to get to know him, to become friend with him, to discover the small details that distinguishes him from the others to develop solid romantic feelings and be able to start a relationship. I think time, a bit of longing, make the feelings way more intense, so why sleeping with a charming guy you've met very recently when you could wait a few weeks or more and make all the sensations way stronger ? I am not religious at all, just romantic, maybe a bit too much, but I just want my first time to be with someone special to whom I will also be special. Anyways, I'm now 22 and getting a bit tired of waiting for love... am I being too idealistic and romantic, should I just stop making a big deal about this and go for a guy I'm not necessarily that thrilled about ? I don't want to... but I'm also a bit worried about what would a guy I like and date think of me still being a virgin.
What would you guys think if you'd meet a girl from my age, kind of like her and start dating her, and discover she is still a virgin ? How would you react ? Would it be a turn-off, or would you be glad she wants to give it to you ? Thanks in advance !
Find a decent guy and when you are ready do it. Sex with the right person is one of the best pleasures in life and you have already missed out for 4 years (legally). When active, always take every precaution. The guy should be wearing a condom and you should be on the pill. Goodluck.
Also forget about your first time being with a guy that is near perfect for you. He may take sometime to come along if ever.
In your post you sound very picky, hence the age you are are still a virgin. Find a guy that you somewhat connect with and are somewhat attracted to, he doesn't need to be near perfect or anything close to that. If you are going to be that picky, you will be making the same thread in 10 years. 10 years after that they will make a movie about you.
Please stay on topic.. if you are going to make a statement as a fact then include a link to back it up. Your opinion is not a fact it is your opinion. Gender bashing is against the ToS.
Not so - you speak from privilege here. Some have lack of opportunity. Some are medically or psychologically incapable. Some have social issues preventing them. Some live in societies where loss of virginity is frowned upon or even received with violence. Some are homosexual where acting on such is taught to be evil so they have to suppress it for fear of social shunning – violence – or even death.
Good grief
I think the astute reader here knew that I meant physically and emotionally healthy adults who are still virgins are virgins by choice.
It seems obvious that those who are incapacitated by mental or physical limitations/reasons don't have a choice about A LOT of things, not just their sex life.
I think the astute reader here knew that I meant physically and emotionally healthy adults who are still virgins are virgins by choice.
It seems obvious that those who are incapacitated by mental or physical limitations/reasons don't have a choice about A LOT of things, not just their sex life.
There are several very weird guys out there that will remain virgins for quite some time because virtually no woman will give them the time of day..
Girls, not so much. Guys tend to be much willing to lower their standards if it's just for sex.
I find it very respectable, honorable and mature of you in this day an age. Don't give it up for the wrong man and or if you are simply not ready to do it because of peer pressure or societal/religous demands. I didn't loose my virginity till I was 25, which is pretty old for guys in this day and age, but I had my reasons
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