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Old 06-11-2013, 10:23 AM
 
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Yep. I'd drop him like a hot potato.
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Old 06-11-2013, 10:45 AM
 
Location: On the corner of Grey Street
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Honestly I'd think less of a guy who had done that. If everything is good with us and he's been tested and come back clean, then I'd really prefer not to know.
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Old 06-11-2013, 10:56 AM
 
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Depends on the circumstances, and with a guy I would date the circumstances are probably ok.

Keeping it a secret, though -- instant dealbreaker.
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Old 06-11-2013, 11:04 AM
 
Location: Toronto
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Yeah, but due to the fear you seem to have, you are acting like every person with an STI = Aids. I think you are being ridiculous to be so ridiculously frightened. People can have far worse diseases than STI's. Do you make them get full physicals and an array of blood tests done as well? You'd hate for them to have some sort of disease that may inconvenience you some day. While you're at it you should probably get a full family health report, cancers, Alzheimers, Parkinsons.. Etc...

You know, the fact that you could possibly get HSV from a partner would definitely be a deal breaker, could not even imagine if you accidentally dated someone with a disease that would seriously damper your relationship some day.
I caught worms in Spain when I was seven. So effing disgusting. I'm not catching anything from anyone ever again. Catching the common cold is gross enough. I'm not interested in whatever STI is being passed around the circuit.

Cancer, Alzheimers, Parkinsons etc... aren't communicable diseases. That doesn't disgust me.
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Old 06-11-2013, 11:05 AM
 
Location: TX
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Depends on the circumstances, and with a guy I would date the circumstances are probably ok.

Keeping it a secret, though -- instant dealbreaker.
Just to clarify:
By this, do you mean lying to you about it or just not volunteering the information?
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Old 06-11-2013, 11:06 AM
 
Location: Toronto
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As one of my friends once told me:

"You don't pay them for the sex, you pay them to leave you alone after."

I.e.... No drama, no getting caught if they are in a relationship.
This is what I figured. Going to a prostitute hardly means a guy can't get a woman. It just means he wanted sex. The same way a woman having a ONS is capable of finding a relationship. She just wanted sex.
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Old 06-11-2013, 11:11 AM
 
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I caught worms in Spain when I was seven. So effing disgusting. I'm not catching anything from anyone ever again. Catching the common cold is gross enough. I'm not interested in whatever STI is being passed around the circuit.

Cancer, Alzheimers, Parkinsons etc... aren't communicable diseases. That doesn't disgust me.
So you would rather date someone with cancer, cirrhosis, or some other disease, as opposed to dating someone with genital warts.. Interesting...

Honestly if I really loved someone the only STI that would turn me away from dating them would be Aids or Hepatitis. Even the other uncurable ones like HSV and HPV I could deal with for the right person. Except of course the cancerous strain of HSV, which is rare.
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Old 06-11-2013, 11:17 AM
 
Location: USA
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This is what I figured. Going to a prostitute hardly means a guy can't get a woman. It just means he wanted sex. The same way a woman having a ONS is capable of finding a relationship. She just wanted sex.
Thats probably a good analogy. The percentage of women that have had one night stands is probably the same as men who have been with a Professional. Women just aren't geared to pay for it, unless your one of those women that goes to Jamaica on the sex vacation.
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Old 06-11-2013, 11:23 AM
 
Location: Toronto
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So you would rather date someone with cancer, cirrhosis, or some other disease, as opposed to dating someone with genital warts.. Interesting...

Honestly if I really loved someone the only STI that would turn me away from dating them would be Aids or Hepatitis. Even the other uncurable ones like HSV and HPV I could deal with for the right person. Except of course the cancerous strain of HSV, which is rare.
I'd okay if they could and did get it treated. These things happen. But there are things I can do to avoid getting infected myself.
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Old 06-11-2013, 11:45 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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I'd okay if they could and did get it treated. These things happen. But there are things I can do to avoid getting infected myself.
Exactly. If you're regularly sexually active, you should be getting regular STD/STI tests. You owe it to yourself and to your partners. It has nothing to do with lack of trust or paranoia. It's merely responsible.
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