Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Sounds familiar. But then again, sit in a room full of people who have lived with/loved an alcoholic. You get the weird feeling that everyone is talking about the exact same person. The behavior of an alkie, what they will say, what they will do, it's all very predictable.
An alcoholic or other addict just LOVES somebody like the OP, there to "help" them. I was that helpful idiot once.
I agree with you 100%.
I was also one of them like you.
I remember sitting in my first and last Alanon meeting thinking I was not going to live the rest of my life like this, commiserating with other women and men about their alcoholic partner, their lives on hold forever while they "deal" with their selfish, addicted loved one.
I said screw that and left. I would never in a million years hook up with another person with a drug or alcohol addiction, they are completely toxic and will destroy your life.
Of course they will put the needs of the kids first, but no it's not fair to the new girlfriend to be on the back burner, especially if she doesn't have kids.
Of course they will put the needs of the kids first, but no it's not fair to the new girlfriend to be on the back burner, especially if she doesn't have kids.
Being backburnered for booze, though, is apparently not a problem. Interesting priorities.
Of course they will put the needs of the kids first, but no it's not fair to the new girlfriend to be on the back burner, especially if she doesn't have kids.
Be sure to stick with your "quest" for a single man with no kids....... I'd say it's a good solid plan for you.
There is really no such thing as a functioning alcoholic. Anyone who drinks alcoholically is underperforming in life. Sure, your boyfriend is able to wake himself up for work every morning despite getting hammered the night before, but that's not functioning beyond a base level that should be expected of any adult. I know a guy with Down Syndrome who gets himself up for work every day and pays his bills. A normal, functioning person should be able to do that and much more. They should be setting goals and working to achieve those. Your boyfriend is a loser who is just cruising through life while his health and relationships deteriorate. He has nothing going for him, so I'm sure he loves to get drunk and then talk as if he actually has life plans that he's working towards. That's how it was when I was in my darkest period of alcoholism.
Oh we will get married I'm sure so sorry to disappoint you.
Right.... I believe you....who wouldn't?
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
