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The fact is almost nobody, male or female, dates across class lines. At least, not seriously. And I think the higher one looks on the income ladder, the more rigid the class lines are drawn. No one likes to admit this, but most people want a partner who whose income will enhance their own standard of living. Economics is a huge, albeit rarely spoken, consideration when people are choosing long-term partners.
That isn't true at all, men typically value looks over class and will happily date a gorgeous waitress. Women on the other hand don't like dating down.
To the OP, you need to stop leading with your job on dates. Limit it to 2 sentences then change the subject. Why are you evewn sharing with them that you have a good retirement plan, good health insurance? That stuff comes up after you have been dating for long enough to talk about long term commitment.
I earn 3Xs the money of the man I am currently dating. He does not know that nor does he need to know at this stage. I don't flaunt that I earn enough to have a "certain lifestyle" as you put it. But then again I don't want a "certain lifestyle" so that isn't what I do with my money.
Or of course you can try dating men who have a "certain lifestyle" too... but I am guessing those guys don't want to date you.
The fact is almost nobody, male or female, dates across class lines. At least, not seriously. And I think the higher one looks on the income ladder, the more rigid the class lines are drawn. No one likes to admit this, but most people want a partner who whose income will enhance their own standard of living. Economics is a huge, albeit rarely spoken, consideration when people are choosing long-term partners.
"""The problem with the DC thinking is that high earning women think they deserve a high earning husband just due to their high income.
The problem is, rich men are not exclusively looking for rich women. That means many rich men are already taken by lower income women, and the ones who are left have plenty of options. Smart rich women do not exclude men who earn less than them.
The women in DC have been taught that if they wait, then Mr. Perfect will knock on their door. Of course due to their too high expectations he will never come and they will end up single.""""""""""""""""""
Maybe you could consider evaluating men on other things besides the size of his paycheck. But I know that in this materialist culture, that's just asking too much. Based on the OP's post, is it any wonder most men think that women's number one priority in seeking a man is the size of his wallet.
To the OP, you need to stop leading with your job on dates. Limit it to 2 sentences then change the subject. Why are you evewn sharing with them that you have a good retirement plan, good health insurance? That stuff comes up after you have been dating for long enough to talk about long term commitment.
That's easier said than done in this area. I was just talking to a co-worker yesterday about this... the first thing out of people's mouths in this area (DC area) is usually, "Where do you work" or "What do you do?" Even on dates! This place is so uptight and career driven. It's just common here. And if the OP works for any of the big companies or the government, things like retirement and health insurance are almost common knowledge.
Personally, I can't wait to move out of this area. The only reason I stay is because the schools in Northern Virginia are some of the best in the country... and my Ex lives in the area (which makes co-parenting easier).
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The women in DC have been taught that if they wait, then Mr. Perfect will knock on their door. Of course due to their too high expectations he will never come and they will end up single.
I don't think so. It's pretty much common knowledge (or at least has been reported on several times) that the DC area is one of the few places where single women outnumber single men. Here is an article on incomes, gender, with a hint at dating (for reference) http://www.bizjournals.com/washingto...e-dc-area.html.
The fact is almost nobody, male or female, dates across class lines. At least, not seriously. And I think the higher one looks on the income ladder, the more rigid the class lines are drawn. No one likes to admit this, but most people want a partner who whose income will enhance their own standard of living. Economics is a huge, albeit rarely spoken, consideration when people are choosing long-term partners.
I date across class lines. It's really not a consideration for me since I never plan to marry or have children. It opens up my dating pool of men exponentially.
There is no such thing as male goldiggers. No man is going for date a woman he has no real attraction to for her economic situation.
Well, if you go to the threads where some guy is saying all men want younger women and all women want way older men the topic of cougars and cubs comes up and then they are called male gold diggers.
In all seriousness though, never say never. There are all kinds of people out there with all kinds of motives. Not everyone in a particular sex thinks and feels the same. There are men out there (just like there are women out there) who will use people for money.
That isn't true at all, men typically value looks over class and will happily date a gorgeous waitress. Women on the other hand don't like dating down.
To the OP, you need to stop leading with your job on dates. Limit it to 2 sentences then change the subject. Why are you evewn sharing with them that you have a good retirement plan, good health insurance? That stuff comes up after you have been dating for long enough to talk about long term commitment.
I earn 3Xs the money of the man I am currently dating. He does not know that nor does he need to know at this stage. I don't flaunt that I earn enough to have a "certain lifestyle" as you put it. But then again I don't want a "certain lifestyle" so that isn't what I do with my money.
Or of course you can try dating men who have a "certain lifestyle" too... but I am guessing those guys don't want to date you.
Men will happily screw the waitress, who they marry is a different story.
Men will happily screw the waitress, who they marry is a different story.
Waitresses get married to men every day, are you saying that they don't?
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