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You haven't even dated them yet (dating meaning meeting someone and getting to know them to see if you click). It's a bit presumptuous to think you will have sex with any of them, let alone all of them. Just start with taking each out on a date and getting to know them.
You haven't even dated them yet (dating meaning meeting someone and getting to know them to see if you click). It's a bit presumptuous to think you will have sex with any of them, let alone all of them. Just start with taking each out on a date and getting to know them.
lol. it's true
people love to project out a future that hasn't happened yet though
One of the big things I think that holds me back from doing more dating is that I'm neurotic about uncertainty. This whole "dating" thing (and let's be clear, it is a cultural construct) is based on going on-the-fly, freewheeling it, being generally unconcerned, etc. And I'm not good at that. Especially for dating I'm a bit neurotic with it.
Recently I've been texting like 4 women, and as always happens when I do this, I can't conceive of how I'd "pick" which woman I'd ultimately stay with. And then I worry about potentially hurting someone, and in the same vein, can I have sex with multiple of them? Isn't that sleazy though?
Just, WHAT DO I DO? I don't know what to do?
Should I just go full-on modern dating, no-rules guy and just try to sleep with all of them, and stop being so neurotic - you know, like go all the way the other way? A part of me would enjoy that.
I really just don't like the uncertainty of dating
way too many questions.
It IS NOT this hard.
You are clearly not at all ready for dating, regardless of your age.
With all your confusion, it would be best to pick one woman, date her a while and see how it goes.
The biggest problem with dating multiple people at a time and never settling down is that when those people reach a certain age, they FINALLY get tired of being a serial dater and want to settle down. But, since they never actually took relationships seriously, they have horrible relationship skills, andthey also get bored too easily. The constant rush of the new relationship has altered their view of a real relationship. They think, "NOW, I am ready for a relationship ."
But they aren't. Nowthey built a false idea of a relatonship based off of 100 micro relationships.
If you want a relationship, then date one at a time.
If you dont want a LTR, then dont pursue one or pretend to. There are others out there that will still date you.
It's not clear you'd be showing more regard for others by telling them you want to sleep with other people, if they'd be unlikely to find out anyway.
And this is why I won't have sex until exclusivity is talked about. I think it's gross to have sex with multiple people at the same time, but that's just this person's opinion.
Dating is not dating, you see how ridiculous that sounds?~ Just like your answer.~ Just because "you don't consider it dating", doesn't mean "it isn't dating", "it just isn't dating FOR YOU".~
Get to know them and the decision will come easily.
If you can't get to know all of them (understandable) then yes you have to pick one now to get to know.
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