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As was mentioned, if your gut is telling you this is the end, you should have stated, 'no need, I don't want to carry this relationship any further, and I think we should see other people.' The OP should be back soon, and we will see what was stated by said GF on phone conversation.
Why don't guys get credit for trusting their gut? This is a come-back to the poor social skills, keeps the mind clear, and frees that session in the evening so each person can untangle the relationship. It is not that a bad response should answer a tactless one, but just get it over with. And while he did not initiate 'the talk,' he can certainly re-orchestrate it, if this is truly how he feels. Guys know too, he should complete the action as a preliminary response.
I guess I'm in the minority, but I'm thinking if a person is dumping me, there is no reason to see them face-to-face. I'd rather someone break up over the phone or text. Don't waste my time. If it's over, it's over.
I don't know, to me it seems like it's some sort of sick gratification to do it in person, almost as if they need to see the other person hearbroken.
"Hey. Do you have time to talk tonight about something really important?"
Me: "Uh, yeah sure. Important in what way?"
Her: "Just really important things about where we stand that we need to talk about. I'd rather do this over the phone. I'll call you later tonight."
Look, really? I understand doing it over the phone, or in person, is better than going over text messages. But in situations like this, can you at least call without giving warning?
Now I'm stuck here at work unable to focus because I know this evening I'm going to have to receive the "talk."
I'd rather she just be more specific in her text message and put me out of my misery. Or else call later without giving me any stupid foreshadowing first, lol
Yeah, I hate that.
If you have something to say to me, say it now.
But to tell the truth, there are cases when you can't really get to it right now, due to being busy. But I sure hate being in suspense.
Like when someone says, I have to talk to you about something... later tonight.
I'm the type of person that will have all kinds of scenarios playing in my head, because usually, it is something bad. So I'd rather know now, right at the moment and get it over with.
I guess I'm in the minority, but I'm thinking if a person is dumping me, there is no reason to see them face-to-face. I'd rather someone break up over the phone or text. Don't waste my time. If it's over, it's over.
I don't know, to me it seems like it's some sort of sick gratification to do it in person, almost as if they need to see the other person hearbroken.
I see that it is much safer to break up with someone over the phone because you never know how they will react.
I live 3.5 hours away from the girl I'm talking about. We pretty much never see each other during the week. I'd rather she go ahead and do it over the phone than wait a week or so to do it in person, and lie her way through all of the texts and phone conversations until then.
So why don't you just text her back and tell her that you can't wait until later to break up over the phone so you are ending it at that moment?
Then it is done and you can get back to focusing on the work you are being paid to do.
I guess I'm in the minority, but I'm thinking if a person is dumping me, there is no reason to see them face-to-face. I'd rather someone break up over the phone or text. Don't waste my time. If it's over, it's over.
I don't know, to me it seems like it's some sort of sick gratification to do it in person, almost as if they need to see the other person hearbroken.
good point,,,if it is final, with no chance of working on issues,,,then i agree with this
altho, with half the breakups , strangely we ended up in bed.....break-up sex is underrated!!
She apologized for the revealing text message ahead of time and said it was childish, but she was so flustered.
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