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Maybe I'm weird like that but I generally find that unless I found a guy attractive right away or felt instant chemistry that I will not develop sexual urges for him *ever*. So for a man that I was not attracted to and never felt chemistry with, as I start to like him over time, I STILL will not want him sexually.
Then why would you think you are attracted to him? I guess I don't understand what attraction means to someone who would associate it with someone they wouldn't want to sleep with. It sounds to me like you are just describing getting to know someone and appreciate them as a friend. I don't want to have a romantic relationship with a friend. That's a friendship.
No. To genuinely like a woman, and have romantic feelings and want a relationship with her--I don't consider that a friend. Even if a man doesn't want sex, if he likes you, thinks your attractive and wants to date you, I don't know how he could be seen as a man that wants to be your friend. A friend typically will not have romantic feelings or want to date.
But what are "romantic" feelings if they have nothing to do with desire? I'm not trying to be difficult - I just have no idea where you are coming from. I don't understand wanting to have a relationship with someone that you don't desire.
But what are "romantic" feelings if they have nothing to do with desire? I'm not trying to be difficult - I just have no idea where you are coming from. I don't understand wanting to have a relationship with someone that you don't desire.
I don't know how to explain it... I've wanted to date guys but did not have sexual desire for them. I don't know how it worked, but it did. I found myself having dreams about them, looking forward to seeing them at work. Flirting with them, hoping they would call or text, etc. BUT not wanting to have sex with them, and hoping they wouldn't be upset if we didn't have sex very much.
I don't know how to explain it... I've wanted to date guys but did not have sexual desire for them. I don't know how it worked, but it did. I found myself having dreams about them, looking forward to seeing them at work. Flirting with them, hoping they would call or text, etc. BUT not wanting to have sex with them, and hoping they wouldn't be upset if we didn't have sex very much.
What kind of a relationship did you expect to have with them? I'm sorry - but to me, that just sounds like a friendship.
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What kind of a relationship did you expect to have with them? I'm sorry - but to me, that just sounds like a friendship.
A typical relationship... I figured if we did get serious I could always force myself to have sex and enjoy it. Of course I never pursued relationship with any of these guys(always an issue of timing) but I never doubted that despite not having a sexual desire for that particular guy, that we could still have a decent sex life.
A typical relationship... I figured if we did get serious I could always force myself to have sex and enjoy it. Of course I never pursued relationship with any of these guys(always an issue of timing) but I never doubted that despite not having a sexual desire for that particular guy, that we could still have a decent sex life.
How could you have a decent sex life with someone you had to force yourself to have sex with? This just doesn't make any sense to me. I could never be with someone that didn't desire me and I could never be with someone I didn't desire in return. To me, a relationship without the sexual attraction is a friendship. It doesn't seem fair to be with someone that you have no desire for.
yes. I will admit though that sometimes I find myself bored with it(especially if its lasting too long lol, blame that on adhd). I go through phases where I find myself uninterested in it because its nasty(getting naked, sweaty, noisy, etc) and then I think about how embarrassing and humiliating it is, and how vulnerable and awkward I'd feel and then I lose interest.
Thats kind of the stage I'm in right now. I liked a guy, had strong strong sexual attraction to him, then one day envisioned what it would be like to have sex with him and how mortifying and embarrassing it would be and then I felt sick and lost interest.
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