Marrying someone who has been married before (date, personal, people)

[LS Jaun]

Originally Posted by Raena77

After two times I would question what happened in both situations.

Im with Rain on this one. There are exceptions as always, but if you're no good at it why do it?

[Checkered24]

When someone has had multiple divorces, I begin to assume they are the problem because they appear to be the common factor.

[Melissa78703]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

Does the need to show the world your love for someone via a marriage does that have any merit???

Does marriage make you a better person??

Does marriage make you more employable???

I don't believe that showing the world you love each other is a good enough basis for marriage. I made that mistake before, thinking that my love would be enough. I wasn't thinking in practical terms, namely, "How will this affect my finances? My quality of life? My peace of mind?"

There is love (feelings of tenderness and loyalty); marriage (a legal contract); and co-habitation (how you determine you will reside together). These are not mutually exclusive, but many people assume that they are.

I could get married again for practical reasons, like saving on taxes, health insurance, sharing of pension and other benefits, etc., but I highly doubt I will ever want to live with anyone. You can love each other to pieces and still have lifestyle discrepancies that kill the joy. Me? I have had to uproot myself three times from homes that I dearly loved due to extreme discord, and that really did a number on me. I ain't doing it again. It's more secure to live by myself. In fact, a platonic friend and I are discussing combining our incomes and purchasing a duplex together.

[Raena77]

Originally Posted by LS Jaun

Im with Rain on this one. There are exceptions as always, but if you're no good at it why do it?

Exactly hot stuff.

[LLN]

If they are hot, all are in play!

[AZgarden]

The first marriage was really awful. There will never be a second one. Relationships yes but marriage, no.

[CSD610]

Originally Posted by LS Jaun

Im with Rain on this one. There are exceptions as always, but if you're no good at it why do it?

Health Insurance
and
Third time is the charm.

[srjth]

I would say I do have standards about this (I'll be the 1st or 2nd spouse), but the reality is, if I fall deeply in love I probably won't care.

[*Sixy*]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

I often wonder why do people get married after 2 times, what makes the 3rd time seem appealing??? I wonder...

I just think after all of the legal, emotional, and financial bull**** with marriage what makes someone go for 3 or more marriages...

I have to agree with you. It makes me wonder as well. I just can't understand why someone would keep getting married after several failed marriages.

I'm a once-and-done type person. At this stage in my life I would not be looking to be someone's long-term anything.

[srjth]

Whether you think marriage is important or you don't, you really don't have to explain yourself to people. No one else needs to "understand". It's a personal choice.