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I am new to this forum, have been spying on conversations for a while but never have posted anything until now. Sorry upfront if this topic has been talked about before, I tried searching but couldn’t find anything.
I am a 33 year old single female, I own my house, works as an ICU nurse, I am currently going to school for my Bachelor’s and will eventually get my Masters in Nurse Practitioner. The reason I state these things is not to brag or anything just simply to state that I am in right mind and I did not take this lightly. One of my many flaws is that my “guy picker” is broken, I seem to go for the guys that are not good for me. Examples would be: One guy is currently in jail, one is having a third child with the girl he cheated on me with, one was physically/emotionally abusive etc.
I want a child and since my guy picker is broken I have been looking at artificial insemination. My question for the guys is have you ever done this? What is the benefit to you? I get the product of your donation but you only get a little bit of money and maybe 18 years of wondering what your child looks like, I am doing the open donation which means the child is able to contact the donor when they turn 18 but only if the child wants to. The place I am doing this actually has staff impressions comments and one donor did state that he and his wife was able to produce a beautiful child and they felt it was important to let others experience that bond. This makes since to me, but not all of them have had previous children so what is their reasoning?
Also would it be harder for men to date women who has done the artificial insemination compared to someone who had children from a previous relationship?
Unfortunately they grow up to be revolting teenagers and distant adults.
Consider that before you go shopping for turkey basters.
Most of my (older, female) friends actually regret having children.
Very arrogant and presumptuous post considering the OP indicated that her decision to have children is well thought-out and she is financially able to support them. she is clearly soliciting advice on AI and not some empty, useless rant from the childless, barren and noisy dept.
The fact that your older, female friends regret having children does NOT mean others do or the OP will. Having a child (well my wife delivered the baby) is one of the best things to happen to me. I wouldnt trade the experience for anything in the world. The childless & loud crew should please give us a break! We get it you hate kids and dont want them...just remember that those of with children are just as happy, thankful and fortunate to have them in our lives. We actually enjoy our parental role (even with teenagers) as much as you enjoy your ...umm....childless status!!!!!!
I am new to this forum, have been spying on conversations for a while but never have posted anything until now. Sorry upfront if this topic has been talked about before, I tried searching but couldn’t find anything.
I am a 33 year old single female, I own my house, works as an ICU nurse, I am currently going to school for my Bachelor’s and will eventually get my Masters in Nurse Practitioner. The reason I state these things is not to brag or anything just simply to state that I am in right mind and I did not take this lightly. One of my many flaws is that my “guy picker” is broken, I seem to go for the guys that are not good for me. Examples would be: One guy is currently in jail, one is having a third child with the girl he cheated on me with, one was physically/emotionally abusive etc.
I want a child and since my guy picker is broken I have been looking at artificial insemination. My question for the guys is have you ever done this? What is the benefit to you? I get the product of your donation but you only get a little bit of money and maybe 18 years of wondering what your child looks like, I am doing the open donation which means the child is able to contact the donor when they turn 18 but only if the child wants to. The place I am doing this actually has staff impressions comments and one donor did state that he and his wife was able to produce a beautiful child and they felt it was important to let others experience that bond. This makes since to me, but not all of them have had previous children so what is their reasoning?
Also would it be harder for men to date women who has done the artificial insemination compared to someone who had children from a previous relationship?
I honestly think you should see a therapist about why your "guy picker" is broken before you go further in your quest to have a child.
As a parent, you will have to make thousands of decisions a day. If you can't trust your guy picker, what make you think you will be a good parent?
original poster: I would guess in the future you will want to be in a long term relationship or married so my advice would be to figure out why you keep picking the wrong men before you even think seriously about having a child.
Once that child is here any decision you make regarding a partner is going to affect that child as well.
Do you really want to put them through unnecessary turmoil because you keep picking the wrong men?
I suggest you go into psychotherapy first to figure out what it is that makes you blind to red flags. You want to be able to teach your child how to have healthy relationships and it seems you need some help with that.
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