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Well yeah, that's pretty gross, but he makes a good point about also being able to speak up in a relationship and tell the person to chew with their f**king mouth closed too.
Someone who peppers his speech with "f*cking" also wouldn't get past the first date.
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But everyone has little quirks and idiosyncrasies that make them unique, and you really need to look big-picture at a person and if overall they're a good match, then the little quirks don't matter.
You said it much better than he. This makes perfect sense. Should be a "sticky".
Interesting timing for this video to be posted here; last night my friend Sherry told me that I should never settle.
There are different kinds of settling. Should people settle by giving women with less than the perfect bod and model face a chance? He11 yeah! Should they settle by giving up major deal-breakers? No way! Should they settle by tolerating minor annoyances, like Savage says? Prob'ly. It's all a matter of perspective. If the big picture fits, then it's easy to overlook a couple of minor details.
He makes a very good point in that video, there are so many of my friends in their 30's and 40's who have chased "the perfect" mate only to either get that person and find that they were incompatible and subsequently divorced or broke up. Some of them learn, some of them don't; nobody's perfect, it's about being able to live with differences and being committed to the relationship. If there are habits or behaviors a person has that bothers the other work to find resolution.
I spared 15 . This is the third time I've watched it and IMO this few minutes is worth its weight in gold. No one is 100% compatible and the perfect person doesn't exist.
I also really enjoyed his comments about dealbreakers, that you should have no more than 5 and they shouldn't be superficial. I find so many people have the most unrealistic expectations of others, and are focused on all the wrong priorities when looking for a potential mate. If you can't find someone that meets your standards, that is your fault, not everyone else's.
Not everyone is looking for the "perfect person" because if you have half a brain, you know that no one is perfect. What people are looking for is someone who is not a complete tool shed. That's harder and harder to find these days.
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Just make sure you're in love. Those flaws became more acceptable or tolerable.
I love Dan Savage and agree with most of his stuff. I think the word "settle" throws me off, it seems to have the connotation that you're unhappy with what you got.
There is no "perfect" mate, heck what's "perfect" can change from day-to-day depending on my mood.
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Just make sure you're in love. Those flaws became more acceptable or tolerable.
Be careful with thinking that. That may be for the first 6 months, but after that they can become something that makes you become homicidal.
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Be careful with thinking that. That may be for the first 6 months, but after that they can become something that makes you become homicidal.
Ha I know it.
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. This is the third time I've watched it and IMO this few minutes is worth its weight in gold. No one is 100% compatible and the perfect person doesn't exist. 
