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You keep saying that you are smart however, all you have done is post one excuse after another as to why you cannot do this, that or the other to get this situation fixed.
Does that sound smart to you?
Maybe you should prove to yourself how smart you really are and figure out how to fix your own life.
I'm trying.
I have a heart and can't just throw him out with one of the dogs.
I also am wondering if it'll still work out.
I also like someone else too which is clouding my thoughts.
Nothing's happened yet, almost but it never did.
He did say he always wanted an open relationship. I never was for it till I met this new guy.
While I think the idea of an open relationship is totally fine if everyone agrees to it, I think saying you want an open relationship so you can pursue this other guy you have feelings for is not going to end well--you're basically just keeping him in case the new guy doesn't pan out. I know you don't see it that way and I don't think it's intentional on your part but I think it's true. You won't actually solve any of your problems or fix anything, you will just get further apart and likely break up anyway.
It makes sense that you're starting to like someone else, your choice is to either put some serious work into fixing what's broken since that's probably why you've got strong feelings for another person (and he has to put the work into it too--I can't tell from your posts if he'd be willing to or not) or break it off with him and start dating this new person. Or just be single for awhile. Only you know what the right answer is.
If you wanted a new outfit and you went to the store and found one that was totally wrong for you, you know you would not buy it. Why are there so many people who stay in things that don't "fit" them? Why do so many people not have the courage to admit that they are in something that is not right for them? I do not understand. Will the OP please explain this to me?
If you wanted a new outfit and you went to the store and found one that was totally wrong for you, you know you would not buy it. Why are there so many people who stay in things that don't "fit" them? Why do so many people not have the courage to admit that they are in something that is not right for them? I do not understand. Will the OP please explain this to me?
Because 4 years is a long time and I still love him, I just can't take the fighting, it's literally drained me.
I don't want things to end.
I totally see your point. You don't want things to end the way they were but now, things are different. Do you want things the way they are? If not, it's time to move on.
I totally see your point. You don't want things to end the way they were but now, things are different. Do you want things the way they are? If not, it's time to move on.
I want to go back. I don't want any of this to be Happening.
I just want things to go back to normal.
How do you propose to make things return to how they once were? They have changed. The past is the past. Unless you have a plan to make things return to what they were, your choices here are limited. How did they change and why? Perhaps they never were the way you thought they were and you are just seeing it more clearly now.
You need some time to think. Don't bemoan what once was. Look forward to what will be, because you will make it so.
It's my house.
We moved here to take care of my family, we live in one of their houses rent free for taking care of them.
I wouldn't be the one to leave.
We share a car and like I said we moved 1100 miles away from home. He'd have to find a car and a new place out here or go back home, which would require us moving him back out there.
Location: Went around the corner & now I'm lost!!!!
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If you wanted a new outfit and you went to the store and found one that was totally wrong for you, you know you would not buy it. Why are there so many people who stay in things that don't "fit" them? Why do so many people not have the courage to admit that they are in something that is not right for them? I do not understand. Will the OP please explain this to me?
1+ Now this statement would make a GOOD new thread. Start it and I'll be there
I wonder this same thing. I'd rather be alone and happy than with someone I hate coming home to.
Start looking for a new place for him to stay. He doesn't have to be immediately homeless, but you can come up with an exit plan and execute it.
If you two were living separately, would you still be with him? If the answer is no, then there's little reason to stay in this relationship.
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