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Let him buy his own car, he's living rent free, I'm assuming he works. I was in a somewhat similar situation, cooked, cleaned, went to school full time, part time job, and he worked. Which would have been fine, but he became very jealous. We were together 5.5 years. My friend wanted to see me since I haven't seen her in months went out.
I told him and 30 min later started telling me if I wasn't home by this time he was going to leave. Let's just say I didn't do what he wanted, and came home when I wanted. He did leave in the morning, some nasty texts later he said he was picking his stuff up on Saturday. I packed all his stuff neatly and put it in a corner, and I mean everything.
Later when we started talking he told me he never thought I would actually pack his things, that he wanted to come and " work it out", he was hurt etc that I would do this.
Don't be a doormat and do things he wants you to do. If you say something's, follow through. He's an adult, he can figure things out, and so can you
So, wait...is it truely your car, or grandma's car? Meh, keep it then, but realize he has no where to go. Also, realize you just gave a clue that he might have a point about you afterall...ijs. Such value on an inanimate object.
I work 40 minutes from home. It would be months before I could even think about even putting a down payment on something.
Why give up everything for someone I was sending on their way and putting myself in a predicament to where I don't have a way to get to my job that I love?
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I work 40 minutes from home. It would be months before I could even think about even putting a down payment on something.
Why give up everything for someone I was sending on their way and putting myself in a predicament to where I don't have a way to get to my job that I love?
Wait...didnt he give up everything to go be with you? No one in the family would at least loan you a vehicle, or even buy you another one?
Okay, you love your job, but no longer love him? He can just schlep off into the sunset with what little he can carry, I suppose...
Im sure someone in the family would loan her a car to continue to take care of grandma, while she works and has normal life.
Is it just me, or are some puzzle pieces not truely fitting together here?
Yeah because the two family members I have here, the 75 and 95 year old who live off of ssi and have one car are going to make a car appear out of thin air for me. Mhmm.
Did you miss the part where both he and I left our immediate families back in another state?
Wait...didnt he give up everything to go be with you? No one in the family would at least loan you a vehicle, or even buy you another one?
Okay, you love your job, but no longer love him? He can just schlep off into the sunset with what little he can carry, I suppose...
I do love him.
I just can't take being left to do everything and then treated like crap when I can't keep up with taking care of an entire house alone.
Whatever want his number?
You can do all the dishes, his laundry, anything he ask, do all the house and never go anywhere.
He works with our neighbor. He has no use for a car. If I work late he gets dinner and anything else he needs on his way home any other time I'm home.
If he has a job, he can go to a dealership and get a used car in about 2 hours all said and done. He's an adult, if he dosent want to help and compromise, he can live on his own and in his own filth and you wont have to act like mom to a grown man.
you are not selfish you could however be codependent.
read patterns and characteristics.
btw you will probably have to go thru several BF before you fix this
dont have kids.
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