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3) This makes zero sense. You're shunning yourself? You post on a forum for advice and discussion on topics on matters of which you don't want advice or want discussion regarding?
4) Nope, makes no sense. Very transparent. If you can't be honest with yourself, you do indeed have a long way to go.
None of you make any sense and I don't care about my wellbeing so I can't shun myself.
So if I said I deserved a better childhood thats self-pity even though I was abused verbally and physically?
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Originally Posted by lilyflower3191981
Depends on how you say it. Example "I deserve a better childhood and I realized that been abused is never my fault. I deserve to be loved." This is not self pity
However, "I have been abused when I was a child, I deserve all the happiness in the world, and how come nobody wants to date an abused man? Life is not fair." This is self pity. It gets old very quickly.
This is my personal interpretation of self pity.
There are a lot of people endured hardships in life have the ability to move forward. There are differences between men and boys, women and girls.
EVERYBODY deserves a good childhood but not everybody deserves to be loved simply because he doesn't have a good happy childhood.
This is my personal interpretation of self pity.
There are a lot of people endured hardships in life have the ability to move forward. There are differences between men and boys, women and girls.
EVERYBODY deserves a good childhood but not everybody deserves to be loved simply because he doesn't have a good happy childhood.
When have I said anything about love I don't know what that is and would never use it because it's a meaningless word.
So if I said I deserved a better childhood thats self-pity even though I was abused verbally and physically?
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Originally Posted by doobalistic
When have I said anything about love I don't know what that is and would never use it because it's a meaningless word.
well, you asked a question and I gave you an answer. "depends how you say it"
"I deserve a better childhood" by itself is not self pity. But if you believe that you deserve to be treated better simply because you don't have a good childhood is self pity, is also astonishing sense of entitlement.
My father is healthy, normal person with a social life. I was a painfully shy mess as a kid, and my parents were great to me. IMO you're using your childhood as a cop-out. If you're happy alone and content then great, but happy people usually aren't so bitter and angry.
My old man was beaten and put in the hospital by his father multiple times. His father pulled him out of school and made him work at a young age.
He managed to be a normal successful adult, he doesn't even hold a grudge against my grandfather. My grandfather was a terrible father and a shifty human being, but he's either changed or feels bad now. Either way, he's in our family and actually has a good relationship with my dad now. They went about 15 years without a word though.
Play the hand you're dealt bro, it's your only shot. No reason to be a ***** about it.
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