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I know this is kind of cliche advice, but have you ever considered going to the gym Doll Eyes?
Even if you're already pretty fit, it really seems to put people in a happier place. I gotta say, I think working out for the past 8-9 years has drastically improved my life in many ways.
It taught me how to focus on the problem at hand, just one thing at a time and let nothing bother me unless it's absolutely crucial. This really helped me out at work, but I started that train of thought at the gym.
I've always been pretty athletic, but I was skinny. I look pretty good now from working out, I don't feel like anyone is out my league anymore. It's helped me with my confidence a lot.
Then just forcing myself to talk to everyone sitting or standing near me really helped me learn how to talk to a wide variety of people.
Don't get so down on yourself, you seem pretty intelligent. Fill your day with activities and be around people. Stop worrying about things you can't control!
I know this is kind of cliche advice, but have you ever considered going to the gym Doll Eyes?
Even if you're already pretty fit, it really seems to put people in a happier place. I gotta say, I think working out for the past 8-9 years has drastically improved my life in many ways.
It taught me how to focus on the problem at hand, just one thing at a time and let nothing bother me unless it's absolutely crucial. This really helped me out at work, but I started that train of thought at the gym.
I've always been pretty athletic, but I was skinny. I look pretty good now from working out, I don't feel like anyone is out my league anymore. It's helped me with my confidence a lot.
Then just forcing myself to talk to everyone sitting or standing near me really helped me learn how to talk to a wide variety of people.
Don't get so down on yourself, you seem pretty intelligent. Fill your day with activities and be around people. Stop worrying about things you can't control!
I have been to the gyms before, I am not a regular member now. Right now I just do walking around the neighborhood. It is something to consider I guess to meet people. It is also supposed to help with depression.
I will only ask a woman out if I like her, unless she seems very mean and standoffish then I will walk on. I don't play games. Seriously if you are into a guy, ask him out and see what happens. This is not the stone age, women should take the initiative and ask a man out. Look sometimes the man you like will never ask you out, you giving signals will not work. I don't operate by signals, unless they are very obvious.
Good luck, it is refreshing to see women talk about their frustrations regarding dating, so many men post about their lack of success, time to hear from women!
well you are lucky to have options now. I've been looking into getting a dog from petfinder.
yes, a dog may change your life. you have to become its pack leader, and set rules, boundaries and limitations on what the dog can do. exercise discipline and then affection is also needed. once you master the dog, you will find that mastering your life will be easier.
is it possible that you still harbor (deep down) some resentment towards men, and you might be giving off a very subtle vibe? I know it seems like you're trying to improve and "get out there" and all, but I noticed some of your posts in other threads show signs of resentment towards men, such as negative generalizations, and blanket statements
Haha, I like that little smiley. I'm not sure what I'm going to do come Thursday, I as so confident last week. I guess it is better to try it out then to never know, but I've gotten used to never knowing if that makes sense.
It makes perfect sense but that can be changed
You said you'd rather be dead than volunteering at an animal shelter but you also said you're looking for a dog. What are you afraid of from volunteering at a shelter? Is there a fear of attachment and then the animal leaving you? Volunteering is very fulfilling. I work with someone who has several issues. His health is poor and when he doesn't take his meds properly it affects him mentally. He finds solace in volunteering at the shelters. He looks forward to it. Don't discount the suggestion. You might be surprised what those animals can bring out of you! And it's a great way to meet people, too
yes, a dog may change your life. you have to become its pack leader, and set rules, boundaries and limitations on what the dog can do. exercise discipline and then affection is also needed. once you master the dog, you will find that mastering your life will be easier.
You said you'd rather be dead than volunteering at an animal shelter but you also said you're looking for a dog. What are you afraid of from volunteering at a shelter? Is there a fear of attachment and then the animal leaving you? Volunteering is very fulfilling. I work with someone who has several issues. His health is poor and when he doesn't take his meds properly it affects him mentally. He finds solace in volunteering at the shelters. He looks forward to it. Don't discount the suggestion. You might be surprised what those animals can bring out of you! And it's a great way to meet people, too
I am looking into petfinder.com to get a dog. I have an appt. on Friday to look at a dog shelter about volunteering. I have a fear of pitbulls (even though they get a bad rap) and the shelter mostly has those. What I meant before was I don't see how volunteering can be called a life it just sounds like filler to me mostly for people that don't have an actual life and relationships *shrug*
I am looking into petfinder.com to get a dog. I have an appt. on Friday to look at a dog shelter about volunteering. I have a fear of pitbulls (even though they get a bad rap) and the shelter mostly has those. What I meant before was I don't see how volunteering can be called a life it just sounds like filler to me mostly for people that don't have an actual life and relationships *shrug*
Doll Eyes, everything we do every day is a filler lol...lots of people do various volunteer work--that, for them, is part of their life. The way we all live our lives is up to us and what fulfills us . My co-worker is also single. I've known him for 10 years and he has virtually no family or friends. Volunteering, fostering and being a caregiver to animals is life for him.
Not to get off topic, but believe it or not, you may bond with one of those pitbulls .
well you are lucky to have options now. I've been looking into getting a dog from petfinder.
Maybe that would actually help. Dogs can make great companions.
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