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Haha, no. Don't do this. Unless you are one hell of an actor, the disdain felt for the activity will be pretty obvious, and that will be a turnoff for anybody who's there to enjoy the activity.
i agree. on the other hand if there is an activity you enjoy that involves men, by all means get involved.
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i been going once a week to do volunteering with dogs. it's fun and all but i still cannot get dates like other women. something about me the men have never liked. it must be my looks or something that turn them all away from me.
You've posted on the forum, and sent me some messages, indicating you don't trust men or their intentions at all. Why would they approach you? You have a deep seated mistrust, and mild disdain (at a minimum) of men... you really have to wonder why they don't approach?? Seriously?
You've posted on the forum, and sent me some messages, indicating you don't trust men or their intentions at all. Why would they approach you? You have a deep seated mistrust, and mild disdain (at a minimum) of men... you really have to wonder why they don't approach?? Seriously?
yea seriously because men are mind readers and can mind read that I don't trust most of them just by looking at me on the street.
It could be that you come across in real life as uptight. Thats how you often come across on this forum. Don't be so cold, smile more and you may have more joy.
i remember you. you say that because I don't beleive in ons, fwbs or just randomly bed hopping. if that makes me 'uptight' then so be it. i'm not going to be play toy for some guy.
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yea seriously because men are mind readers and can mind read that I don't trust most of them just by looking at me on the street.
Men, like women, pick up on vibes. At least decent ones do. I have no doubt you project serious mistrust vibes. But hey, if you don't think so, that's your call. Take your pick of other issues.
Men, like women, pick up on vibes. At least decent ones do. I have no doubt you project serious mistrust vibes. But hey, if you don't think so, that's your call. Take your pick of other issues.
I don't know what take your pick of other issues means. but anyway, they are not mind readers so I don't think they pick up on any vibes at all, since they don't talk with me in the first place.
A lot of it has to do with how you present yourself, and that mirrors if people ( not only men ) will approach you. Some people do give out a vibe that they are just not approachable. I've known girls like that, and when I would take then out I would say loosen up a bit you look like you want to throw a fit.
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A lot of it has to do with how you present yourself, and that mirrors if people ( not only men ) will approach you. Some people do give out a vibe that they are just not approachable. I've known girls like that, and when I would take then out I would say loosen up a bit you look like you want to throw a fit.
Yup. Body language, eye contact, energy... all exist in the real world. We, as people, read other people without speaking to them, friends, family, and strangers, all day, every day.
i remember you. you say that because I don't beleive in ons, fwbs or just randomly bed hopping. if that makes me 'uptight' then so be it. i'm not going to be play toy for some guy.
No that is not what I was saying/meaning.
Like others have said your problem is likely to be you look and give off the impression of being "unapproachable".
For example, uptight, not interested, cold, are all ways you can look unapproachable. Don't think I can put it anymore simply than that.
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No that is not what I was saying/meaning.
Like others have said your problem is likely to be you look and give off the impression of being "unapproachable".
For example, uptight, not interested, cold, are all ways you can look unapproachable. Don't think I can put it anymore simply than that.
Right. And the defensiveness, which is re-occurring with her posts. I know little about the autism spectrum, but I know it has to do, in part, with socializing and social cue reading (among other things). It's clearly an issue that isn't to be dealt with by amateurs.
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