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Sadly, many white men are easily intimidated, and shy anyway.
As a white guy I would assume that black chicks wouldn't be into me. I think very generally speaking, people tend to date within their own race... of course people date outside, but statistically most people date within.
That being said, I don't look like your run of the mill white guy, which would also add another factor into my reluctance to approach non-white women.
I don't know really how much of this is because white men are "easily intimidated"
I always seem to end up with chubbies for some reason. I am SO NOT attracted to that.
Especially since it always seems to come with snoring. Last guy needed a breathing machine at night. Hmmm.
Me too. My boyfriend is a bit chubby (drinking belly)but now that he quit drinking he is losing that. When I did online dating most of the guys were obese. I am not under any circumstances attracted to obese men.
As a white guy I would assume that black chicks wouldn't be into me. I think very generally speaking, people tend to date within their own race... of course people date outside, but statistically most people date within.
I meant, their shyness likely wasn't due to a perceived difference in race, as the poster thought. White guys are that way around white women, too. Look at all the guys here who have said in the past that they assume attractive women are taken, so they don't approach. Or they're afraid to approach because they don't want to be rejected. Or they can't even bring themselves to speak to an attractive woman.
I meant, their shyness likely wasn't due to a perceived difference in race, as the poster thought. White guys are that way around white women, too. Look at all the guys here who have said in the past that they assume attractive women are taken, so they don't approach. Or they're afraid to approach because they don't want to be rejected. Or they can't even bring themselves to speak to an attractive woman.
Very true.
The story of many black professional women not finding a professional black guy is quite true, especially in Chicago. I've been here a year and haven't met one. Most prefer the company of white women, asian or anything other than black. It's a big deal.
My younger brother, who is 17, has even stated he won't deal with black girls. And most of the black men in my family are now marrying white women.
I'm glad they've found happiness. But it's hard for a black woman to find love and happiness.
The story of many black professional women not finding a professional black guy is quite true, especially in Chicago. I've been here a year and haven't met one. Most prefer the company of white women, asian or anything other than black. It's a big deal.
My younger brother, who is 17, has even stated he won't deal with black girls. And most of the black men in my family are now marrying white women.
I'm glad they've found happiness. But it's hard for a black woman to find love and happiness.
In my experience, I would say that there are professional black men out there who date black women. They might not all be tall, goodlooking, alpha, athletic, popular, etc. but I don't think they're impossible to find (don't take my word for it though because I haven't really searched for any).
In my experience, I would say that there are professional black men out there who date black women. They might not all be tall, goodlooking, alpha, athletic, popular, etc. but I don't think they're impossible to find (don't take my word for it though because I haven't really searched for any).
I'm not looking for "ideal" complete package..Just someone I am attracted to and who is also a professional like myself (and we're compatible) -
I'm 28 and going to just be single..and I'm learning to deal with it.
The story of many black professional women not finding a professional black guy is quite true, especially in Chicago. I've been here a year and haven't met one. Most prefer the company of white women, asian or anything other than black. It's a big deal.
My younger brother, who is 17, has even stated he won't deal with black girls. And most of the black men in my family are now marrying white women.
I'm glad they've found happiness. But it's hard for a black woman to find love and happiness.
I know I attract the thug and drunk black guys. The kind I don't want. But many people don't know what I am. I am black, but have albinism. So, my hair is blonde, green eyes, and skin with no color. So, some people don't know what I am.
My ex friend says her family was racist, but they didn't mind me since, to them, I didn't look black. So, not telling what kind of men I could get, aside from the loser black guys-bums, thugs, drunks. I have pix online of myself, and alot of white guys did say I was hot.
And black guys may shy away from me for not being "black" enough. Sadly that happens. I am not ghetto, loud, don't like rap music and ******* and hoes, not attracted to guys with gold teeth, grills, chains, thug wannabes, loud guys. Basically, many guys and girls don't like ghetto, which not all black people are.
I like some anime, my mother watches as well.
I listen to any music that sounds good I like Nickleback, Japanese songs, Rock, Country, etc. Only music I do not listen to is metal. lol
I don't like hood films. The Friday films, Set it Off. The latter I watched, and it's ok. but not something I am gonna watch again.
I still like cartons, and family films, etc.
So, I may not be black enough for black guys. And many white guys aren't attracted to black girls. Not where I live anyway lol
So, Lord knows who i'll meet. But meeting someone is last on my list of things to do lol for now.
Lmao. Lately this seems to be the type that approaches me or that pursues me. In the last year I've dated at least 10 guys(guessing) each one has mainly dated white woman. This wouldn't be an issue to me if this type didnt display certain tendencies that indicate some level of black hatred. For instance the most common comment I get from these men is often them asking if I'm mixed because I don't look like a black woman or they will make comments about other black women and attitudes these other women have. The weird thing is that black women find these men attractive and desire them so I have no clue why they have bitter or negative opinions about black women.
They also tend to look down on other blacks that are less fortunate as well. In other words just get the feeling that they don't like being black. Or maybe certain aspects. It just gets old. I admit that I typically prefer a black man that either has dated all races equally or one that mostly dates black women. But it seems like the men I've been attracted to professionally and physically have been the ones that are more partial to white women. They are typically the tall, athletic alpha, popular, corporate black men. Which is my type. Oh well lol.
I dont know why? I like black women too and I really do, however plenty of black women are not into me. I guess I'm not black enough for average black women especially since I'm heavily mixed. I don't know why they desire to be with those type of guys which do not really amount to nothing much in the long term. I find black women difficult to approach these days. But yes professional and well educated black men tend to be with white women, just like who well educated professional black women tend to be with white men. Its not the race issue of attraction its mainly similarities in education, income strata and work ethic that brings people of different races together. But I find professional well educated black women very attractive. Just like their white educated female counterparts, many struggle to find someone meaningful, chase men who make plenty of money who only use them for sex, worry about their careers and still single well past 35 with their biological clock ticking and then no man wants them neither black or white. Again this is what I have observed.
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