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Originally Posted by Canada Boy
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Is this rocket science?
Not for me. But I've never had anything like this happened. Not sure what you did. Even if she wanted a free meal, and as rare as that is, they'd say goodbye at the door.
So its our second date, things are going great (at least I thought). She gets up to go to the bathroom. I wait for a few minutes, find it odd its taking a long time, then ask the waitress if she's seen her. The waitress says no, and says she thinks she left. I'm sort of bewildered and stupidly pay for her $30 lunch. (I should have left the restaurant the woman's number and not paid).
Ugh. I feel stupid and worthless. How can people be like this? The weird thing is, her profile is all about how she tries her hardest to be kind to people etc.
But you are a good man for NOT leaving without paying. If you had done that, the waitress - who had nothing to do with it - would have been stuck at the very least explaining to her boss why two people got out without paying.
Consider that $30 is a cheap lesson when a lesson later in life with her could have cost so much more (in time, emotions, money, etc.)
That's just bizarre. On a second date? When you called - did you explain that you thought that she had left? Maybe she came back and thought that you ditched her.
if she calls you OP, demand to know what happened, or dont ever take her calls again. if you see her, ignore her completely, act as if she doesnt exist. if she says something to you, look at her with a confused look on your face, and ask her do i know you? and then walk on.
if she calls you OP, demand to know what happened, or dont ever take her calls again. if you see her, ignore her completely, act as if she doesnt exist. if she says something to you, look at her with a confused look on your face, and ask her do i know you? and then walk on.
This is the best ! Then she may wonder maybe I didn't have lunch with that guy !
I'm always thinking there has to be a logical answer here, like one post said maybe she is stepping out on her husband and saw someone she knew. I wonder if she wasn't feeling well, and just wanted to leave but if that was the case I would think she would have called to tell you why
Either way it sounds like she wasn't brought up with manners, and that has nothing to do with you.
Try to not take this so personally
This is the best ! Then she may wonder maybe I didn't have lunch with that guy !
I'm always thinking there has to be a logical answer here, like one post said maybe she is stepping out on her husband and saw someone she knew. I wonder if she wasn't feeling well, and just wanted to leave but if that was the case I would think she would have called to tell you why
Either way it sounds like she wasn't brought up with manners, and that has nothing to do with you.
Try to not take this so personally
yep. years ago i was working in the tetons, and one girl that was working with us up and said straight out that she hated ALL men. so i figured that included me, so i avoided her. one day she happened to see me in the Kmart in jackson hole, and said hi to me, i just walked by her and ignored her. she got the message that she has to be a bit careful with what she says, and how she says it.
Who get's just bread boxed up? You dodged a bullet, in 5 years the starch bomb would have exploded and you would have ended up with someone who looked like they ate her. Really, you're lucky it only cost 30, could have ended up wining and dining her, ended up with a 3 digit bill. You ended up being out 15.00 since you ate, and no worries of blue balls. Guys will date women for years, and end up thousands out, and in the same boat you're in now. So just go find another one, and if that fails, get another and so on...
So its our second date, things are going great (at least I thought). She gets up to go to the bathroom. I wait for a few minutes, find it odd its taking a long time, then ask the waitress if she's seen her. The waitress says no, and says she thinks she left. I'm sort of bewildered and stupidly pay for her $30 lunch. (I should have left the restaurant the woman's number and not paid).
Ugh. I feel stupid and worthless. How can people be like this? The weird thing is, her profile is all about how she tries her hardest to be kind to people etc.
So, are you upset that she walked out or that she didn't pay her portion? You said this was a date, but it seems as if she was expected to pay for her meal and on other post when someone asked you how she got home, you said she drove?
What exactly qualifies this as a date?
And if you had left without paying, they would have called the police, would not have been s smart thing to do.
However, unless you were being a total jerk to her, you can't control what she does, so there is no reason to feel stupid and worthless because of what one woman did.
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This is the best ! Then she may wonder maybe I didn't have lunch with that guy !
