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That's fair, I don't like anyone, except the people that like me then and I shall doll out respect as I see fit. That sounds good to me.
You'd have to also not respect yourself. I'm pretty sure if you're being honest with yourself, you view some people as "not someone you'd consider dating" whether it's due to age or them being unemployed or if they were country hicks or something else.
You'd have to also not respect yourself. I'm pretty sure if you're being honest with yourself, you view some people as "not someone you'd consider dating" whether it's due to age or them being unemployed or if they were country hicks or something else.
You are of course right, so I rescind respect for myself as well.
It's not a numbers game, and I've never met a single person that even comes close to 1/100 responses. They're butchering their attempts if they do.
They're probably treating it, idiotically, as a numbers game.
Agreed.
Guys, you will have low success if you send out a ton of "hey ur hot" or "hi how are you" messages to any women with a photo that excites you.
Your success may go up if you:
1. Read the profile to determine compatibility. No matter how much you like her photo, if your profiles don't seem compatible, then her odds of responding have just dropped.
2. Are realistic about your attractiveness in comparison to the woman. I think OKcupid showed that women are more realistic about this, messaging/responding to men rated average more than men do with women rated average. That's likely the OP's problem - she is realistically rating herself average & messaging average men. Average men are messaging hot women & complaining about not getting dates...
3. Write a brief initial message that shows you read the profile & makes it easy for her to respond (i.e. ask a question or bring up a topic that lends to conversation, not a dead-end).
This can actually take less or about the same time/effort as playing the numbers game, because you are maximizing your time/effort to get more results from it.
Guys, you will have low success if you send out a ton of "hey ur hot" or "hi how are you" messages to any women with a photo that excites you.
Your success may go up if you:
1. Read the profile to determine compatibility. No matter how much you like her photo, if your profiles don't seem compatible, then her odds of responding have just dropped.
2. Are realistic about your attractiveness in comparison to the woman. I think OKcupid showed that women are more realistic about this, messaging/responding to men rated average more than men do with women rated average. That's likely the OP's problem - she is realistically rating herself average & messaging average men. Average men are messaging hot women & complaining about not getting dates...
3. Write a brief initial message that shows you read the profile & makes it easy for her to respond (i.e. ask a question or bring up a topic that lends to conversation, not a dead-end).
This can actually take less or about the same time/effort as playing the numbers game, because you are maximizing your time/effort to get more results from it.
You know this is old news right? This has been talked about for years now. Any who can find this forum can find that found a mental advice. We've all tried it, if you send a clever message, yes you're more likely to get a response, but it doesn't mean anything. Basically she's just thanking you for the nice message, it doesn't mean she wants to meet you and won't meet you if you're not what she's looking for.
FYI if you just send hi how are you, she'll still view your profile. So if you pass the attractive test, and you have a well written profile, she's not gonna say "well all he said was hi."
Please don't argue with me, if you disagree, PM me and we'll get down to proving it.
You are clearly not getting your info from RL women.
I've used online dating. You think I'm just pulling this out of thin air?
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I'm pretty sure if you're being honest with yourself, you view some people as "not someone you'd consider dating" whether it's due to age or them being unemployed or if they were country hicks or something else.
