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You don't have to everything in common with one another. First is attraction, then character, does he seem like someone you'd associate with. Talk a little about each others interest, even if you're not into the exact same thing. If what you hear sounds interesting, look to meet him in person and see if your mannerism is compatible with his. The same way you meet people in real life.
It's not a matter of having EVERYTHING in common. I have core beliefs and principles that are important to me, and are deal breakers. When they don't bother to take the time to look at my profile, it shows they aren't really interested in me as a person. They have the opportunity right there to learn about me, and they don't bother.
Obviously attraction comes first but at least show that you are interested in the person underneath. Geez. This is why you guys don't get responses.
It's not a matter of having EVERYTHING in common. I have core beliefs and principles that are important to me, and are deal breakers. When they don't bother to take the time to look at my profile, it shows they aren't really interested in me as a person. They have the opportunity right there to learn about me, and they don't bother.
Obviously attraction comes first but at least show that you are interested in the person underneath. Geez. This is why you guys don't get responses.
Exactly!!
I'm pretty sure I did OLD wrong. I read every word of the profiles, and if I liked one, then I read the answers to the match questions. And if I saw no problems there, then I looked at the pictures.
I just read these bbw comments and they are horrendous. I'm not a bbw myself and I don't date obese men myself but I wouldn't belittle them. They don't deserve to be used by men until the man finds a woman he wants to be with. I once dated a man who laughed about an obese woman. He bragged about using her for sex until a woman he wanted appeared. Needless to say we didn't date long.
Not my experience at all. Some of the ugliest men I have ever seen were the ones who contacted me. Real uggos.
Those are the guys in your league. The top 10% of guys messaging you, I can almost guarantee would not date you. It's messed up, but it's true.......real talk
Those are the guys in your league. The top 10% of guys messaging you, I can almost guarantee would not date you. It's messed up, but it's true.......real talk
Oh so the ugliest men ever who look like Quasimodo are in the same range as a former model? I think not.
You know this is old news right? This has been talked about for years now. Any who can find this forum can find that found a mental advice. We've all tried it, if you send a clever message, yes you're more likely to get a response, but it doesn't mean anything. Basically she's just thanking you for the nice message, it doesn't mean she wants to meet you and won't meet you if you're not what she's looking for.
FYI if you just send hi how are you, she'll still view your profile. So if you pass the attractive test, and you have a well written profile, she's not gonna say "well all he said was hi."
Please don't argue with me, if you disagree, PM me and we'll get down to proving it.
Yes, I may view your profile. NO, I will not message you, because some other man equally attractive sent me a thoughtful message which showed he viewed my profile, and he made it so I am compelled to respond, because he made the message interesting. And after viewing your profile, I may discover that no matter how cute you may be, we are not compatible, or however interesting you are, you are not attractive enough for me. Men who fall on the borderline of attractive will really increase their results if they put more though into their messages. If I have an "eh" response to their photos, but they have a good profile & good message, then I am more likely to responds. "Eh" photos and okay profile with dull message means "delete" because I have too many other messages to deal with.
Ladies? We are not surprised that guys go for what they consider hot as the first consideration. Right?! I'm not saying guys are totally shallow, but at the beginning, attraction is their achilles heel.
Instead of being offended, be flattered, and confident that your personality will make them want to stay.
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Yes, I may view your profile. NO, I will not message you, because some other man equally attractive sent me a thoughtful message which showed he viewed my profile, and he made it so I am compelled to respond, because he made the message interesting. And after viewing your profile, I may discover that no matter how cute you may be, we are not compatible, or however interesting you are, you are not attractive enough for me. Men who fall on the borderline of attractive will really increase their results if they put more though into their messages. If I have an "eh" response to their photos, but they have a good profile & good message, then I am more likely to responds. "Eh" photos and okay profile with dull message means "delete" because I have too many other messages to deal with.
This is 100 percent correct. I exchanged a couple of messages last night with a good looking guy (who btw didn't view my profile) and within two messages he was telling me how he was homeless because his apartment got bedbugs, how my city was terrible, and his views on race. No thank you. I'd rather talk to the not so attractive but quirky and cute guy who doesn't act like a blowhard.
This of course was someone who had barely filled out his profile. Has he done so, I wouldn't have wasted my time despite his attractiveness.
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