Men say they like variety but always do "it the same.... (married, girls)
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It's a time thing. Variety is great, but when you only see each other once a week or so, and things start to get down, things generally go to the good ole good ole. Have a quiet weekend with no pressing obligations where you can lie in bed, or even better, a 3 day weekend away with cell phones turned off and no schedule, well, then things tend to change up nicely...
To quote a fictional character who put it better than I ever could: "I like my rut, that's why I made it".
I like the "same old, same old" because that's what feels the best-"creativity" in bed is not a priority for me.
In past, I've tried this that or the other and really didn't care for/enjoy those, plus I felt I had to pretend I was "into" it, lest I seem boring.
No dis against people who like to mix it up & try new things-yay for them-but that's not what works well personally.
We're all unique, what's important is that any two people are compatible with each other (in what they prefer, as to behavior/arrangements).
I don't consider it a gender-related difference...or at least not in terms of "men always want this, but women always want that".
We change things up, but we definitely have our favorites. I like variety, but don't personally see a lot of point in variety for it's own sake if you've already got stuff in your repertoire that works better. There are some positions/variations That we've tried that, in the end, are a lot of extra effort for not as much satisfaction.
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Sometimes I change things up just because I'm fearful that my lady friend is getting bored, too. I don't want her to think I'm getting complacent. I wonder how often she was thinking "I wish he would just do me power missionary like usual", or whatever.
It's like this! You find a recipe for the most delicious dish, you've cooked/eaten it many, many times, and you know, instinctively, if you experimented with it, listened to your variety-seeking wife who wants you to add some cumin or curry to the dish, it would ruin it!
Yeah! She'd probably love it, with some added curry or cumin, and you? Sure, you'd eat it if you were hungry enough or run out to a McDonald's where you know experimentation wouldn't be permitted!
Yea of course. Men like a variety of women but like the same position doing it with them. Why mess with what's fun? Men just don't like doing a bunch of positions with women because that's useless, you're putting the same thing in the same place, why do weird/awkward things? That's something women like for whatever illogical reason.
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Lots of sub women really clam up and the talk about what works or what doesn't occurs outside the scene / bedroom; you don't get real time feedback, though hopefully you can read them and their body language. It doesn't always work though.
And believe it or not, Nila, it is something a lot of women really like... there are many women out there than hate slow, soft, "sensual" lovemaking and like hard ________. With my current lady friend, if I go slow and am all kissey and tender for any period she grabs my hips speeds me up or when she is top there is no rocking, just slamming; just about every time. She is hardly the first woman I've been with like that.
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Originally Posted by CoolZombie
Yea of course. Men like a variety of women but like the same position doing it with them. Why mess with what's fun? Men just don't like doing a bunch of positions with women because that's useless, you're putting the same thing in the same place, why do weird/awkward things? That's something women like for whatever illogical reason.
It isn't illogical. Different spots are being touched. A half of inch shift of position doesn't make any difference to me, but it can be a completely different sensation to some women (not all, but some).
Yea of course. Men like a variety of women but like the same position doing it with them. Why mess with what's fun? Men just don't like doing a bunch of positions with women because that's useless, you're putting the same thing in the same place, why do weird/awkward things? That's something women like for whatever illogical reason.
I find opinions like this very hard to believe.
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