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Old 01-21-2015, 02:53 PM
 
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I've been talking to this guy online since May he's in his 40's and I'm in my late 20's in a few months he and I live in different states. We've talked a lot but we are not in a relationship. He has mental issues and he spends a lot of time alone. I told him that I wanted to explore and try new things with him sexually. He called me a couple of times last night but I missed the call. He sent me a text letting me know who he was. I don't want to be in a relationship with him. I really wish he and I lived closer I think I would enjoy his company. I just don't know what to think I know I'm still really young. I know most people say older men only like younger women for sex etc. I guess I'm feeling conflicted I still live at home with my parents. I would like to meet him in person but I'm not sure what would end up happening. I suppose that people can have sexual encounters without any feelings developing. I'm hoping to move out in a couple of years by then I'll be in my early 30's. Maybe I am just over thinking this and should just forget about it. I know long distance relationships do not work out at all I don't even want to be in a long distance relationship honestly. I would rather just remain friends and then move closer but moving requires a lot of work and planning, money etc.
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Old 01-21-2015, 02:55 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I've been talking to this guy online since May he's in his 40's and I'm in my late 20's in a few months he and I live in different states. We've talked a lot but we are not in a relationship. He has mental issues and he spends a lot of time alone. I told him that I wanted to explore and try new things with him sexually. He called me a couple of times last night but I missed the call. He sent me a text letting me know who he was. I don't want to be in a relationship with him. I really wish he and I lived closer I think I would enjoy his company. I just don't know what to think I know I'm still really young. I know most people say older men only like younger women for sex etc. I guess I'm feeling conflicted I still live at home with my parents. I would like to meet him in person but I'm not sure what would end up happening. I suppose that people can have sexual encounters without any feelings developing. I'm hoping to move out in a couple of years by then I'll be in my early 30's. Maybe I am just over thinking this and should just forget about it. I know long distance relationships do not work out at all I don't even want to be in a long distance relationship honestly. I would rather just remain friends and then move closer but moving requires a lot of work and planning, money etc.
SOOOOOOO many red flags.
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Old 01-21-2015, 02:58 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Uhhhh... What do you mean, you want to explore the sexual relation with him, when you haven`t even met him?
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Old 01-21-2015, 03:00 PM
 
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"somewhat" should even be a consideration.

You appear to try to be talking yourself in to something you know Will be bad news if you go through on it.
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Old 01-21-2015, 03:00 PM
 
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Well I just meant that I didn't want anything serious and that I was only interested in having something physical with him.

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Uhhhh... What do you mean, you want to explore the sexual relation with him, when you haven`t even met him?
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Old 01-21-2015, 03:00 PM
 
Location: NYC
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I've been talking to this guy online since May he's in his 40's and I'm in my late 20's in a few months he and I live in different states. We've talked a lot but we are not in a relationship. He has mental issues and he spends a lot of time alone. I told him that I wanted to explore and try new things with him sexually. He called me a couple of times last night but I missed the call. He sent me a text letting me know who he was. I don't want to be in a relationship with him. I really wish he and I lived closer I think I would enjoy his company. I just don't know what to think I know I'm still really young. I know most people say older men only like younger women for sex etc. I guess I'm feeling conflicted I still live at home with my parents. I would like to meet him in person but I'm not sure what would end up happening. I suppose that people can have sexual encounters without any feelings developing. I'm hoping to move out in a couple of years by then I'll be in my early 30's. Maybe I am just over thinking this and should just forget about it. I know long distance relationships do not work out at all I don't even want to be in a long distance relationship honestly. I would rather just remain friends and then move closer but moving requires a lot of work and planning, money etc.
You're not that young but you do sound immature for your age.
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Old 01-21-2015, 03:02 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Well I just meant that I didn't want anything serious and that I was only interested in having something physical with him.
You are just fantasizing, and it is a frustrating and potentially dangerous situation.

Aren't you dating anyone in YOUR town?? Do you work?
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Old 01-21-2015, 03:02 PM
 
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What is it about me that sounds immature?

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You're not that young but you do sound immature for your age.
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Old 01-21-2015, 03:03 PM
 
Location: SoCal again
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I've been talking to this guy online since May he's in his 40's and I'm in my late 20's in a few months he and I live in different states. We've talked a lot but we are not in a relationship. He has mental issues and he spends a lot of time alone. I told him that I wanted to explore and try new things with him sexually. He called me a couple of times last night but I missed the call. He sent me a text letting me know who he was. I don't want to be in a relationship with him. I really wish he and I lived closer I think I would enjoy his company. I just don't know what to think I know I'm still really young. I know most people say older men only like younger women for sex etc. I guess I'm feeling conflicted I still live at home with my parents. I would like to meet him in person but I'm not sure what would end up happening. I suppose that people can have sexual encounters without any feelings developing. I'm hoping to move out in a couple of years by then I'll be in my early 30's. Maybe I am just over thinking this and should just forget about it. I know long distance relationships do not work out at all I don't even want to be in a long distance relationship honestly. I would rather just remain friends and then move closer but moving requires a lot of work and planning, money etc.


I wish the OP would post a picture of herself.
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Old 01-21-2015, 03:03 PM
 
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Yes I do work why do you ask? I was in a relationship with a guy for 9 years.

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You are just fantasizing, and it is a frustrating and potentially dangerous situation.

Aren't you dating anyone in YOUR town?? Do you work?
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