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Right before she cancelled on me, she was sending sexy pictures of herself and I made sure to tell her how incredible she looked. But one thing I didn't realize until now is that there weren't any full body shots, just stuff of her from the chest up.
I still think you could try the naked intimacy I mentioned before, except you get naked in front of her first and let her know you want to see her and dont care about her size. You care about her and her size is a part of her. She needs to hear that to feel some security. Even if it helps a little, over time with consistency all those little bits become a lot. Dont be afraid to wrap your arms around her waist where shes insecure. The more you do this the better she will feel that you do accept her.
Im just saying from personal experience as a large woman myself whos been through this. But everyone is different.
how do you know she cancels because of HER weight? Maybe she cancels because of YOUR weight!
Nah shes doing the thing where she only shows cleavage and up. I used to do that because I didnt like the way the rest of my body looked in pictures but really liked my face. She isnt comfortable with herself.
Why do you suspect that she's cancelling on you because of her weight? Could she be cancelling for other reasons?
It could be for other reasons. I have no idea. My point is IF she's canceling because of her weight, what can I do to help put her at ease?
For now, I'm taking her at her word. But this is the second time she's canceled. If it were a matter of her losing interest, that would be one thing. But I don't see any signs of that. If anything, I get the opposite impression. You don't send sexy pictures to someone the night before you're set to come over dinner if you're losing interest in them. We'll see how it goes. But both times were pretty similar. A steady buildup followed by a cancelation at the last minute. First tired, now sick. If she is making it up, I'm not upset. I just want to be sure she's not afraid of where things are headed and getting cold feet.
Nah shes doing the thing where she only shows cleavage and up. I used to do that because I didnt like the way the rest of my body looked in pictures but really liked my face. She isnt comfortable with herself.
So did you get in shape or what did you do to change it? Maybe she also only likes your face?
It could be for other reasons. I have no idea. My point is IF she's canceling because of her weight, what can I do to help put her at ease?
For now, I'm taking her at her word. But this is the second time she's canceled. If it were a matter of her losing interest, that would be one thing. But I don't see any signs of that. If anything, I get the opposite impression. You don't send sexy pictures to someone the night before you're set to come over dinner if you're losing interest in them. We'll see how it goes. But both times were pretty similar. A steady buildup followed by a cancelation at the last minute. First tired, now sick. If she is making it up, I'm not upset. I just want to be sure she's not afraid of where things are headed and getting cold feet.
Invite her OUT to dinner and not at home. When you are out eating, make her feel comfortable in her body, give her compliments. Or tell her "I am glad you are not just ordering a salad" or stuff like that. Go with the flow. Or recommend a big dish and if she says "I shouldn't eat that", tell her how great she looks.
After dinner, kiss her until she faints and take her home.
I have a good body. I exercise a lot, keep trim, and am not considered overweight by any means. The only person who was critical about my body was my ex-husband, and he was very critical and harsh, always telling me I needed to lose weight. He liked very skinny girls, but I'm short, curvaceous, muscular, and busty. I have a body like a gymnast, not a ballerina, and there is no changing that, nor do I want to change it, especially not for a d-bag. His excessive criticism is a big reason he's my EX-husband
I have a good body. I exercise a lot, keep trim, and am not considered overweight by any means. The only person who was critical about my body was my ex-husband, and he was very critical and harsh, always telling me I needed to lose weight. He liked very skinny girls, but I'm short, curvaceous, muscular, and busty. I have a body like a gymnast, not a ballerina, and there is no changing that, nor do I want to change it, especially not for a d-bag. His excessive criticism is a big reason he's my EX-husband
Good for you. And how is this going to help OP with his question?
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Is this an online relationship? Seems like it could be one of those girls who is just in it for attention. I'm sorry but an interested women wouldn't flake out over seeing you even if she's was uncomfortable about her body. Maybe keep the lights off but not cancel dates etc.
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But the way they would touch me and respond to seeing me helped a lot as well.
