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However, are you wanting those "picky" women to pick you? Honestly, they could all kiss my... I mean, why bother with completely superficial women? Because they're pretty? There's a lot more to life than looking at a pretty mate.
I met my wife through OLD. All the women that didn't message me back, they'll never know what they missed out on. Sucks for them, right?
The bigger the checklist for a mate, the more likely you're going to die alone.
I never saw the point of listing demands. I say what I'm into and what I think about a few things, say I'm looking for someone like-minded, and list a couple of deal-breakers, like I wouldn't date a smoker, someone who is religious, or someone who has minor-age children.
It's better to show than to tell. If you have a quirky sense of humor, that should come out in your writing or the way you answer questions about your favorite TV shows, etc., instead of saying, "I have a quirky sense of humor." A lot of it is that people just don't know how to write well and sometimes it comes off as bragging.
No, I never message the women who I think are hot or gorgeous because I automatically assume those women are going to be extra arrogant, self-absorbed, and demanding. Plus, those women probably get inundated with messages daily, so I think why bother?
I rarely message women at all ( partly because I'm not that active on any OLD site), but when I do occasionally send a message, it's always sent to someone who seems pleasant, easygoing, and at least somewhat attractive. And I have had some e-mail exchanges and replies, but for whatever reason, the communication ends. Granted, I am not a forward guy: I don't rush to make a date or ask someone out; I prefer to move slower. I know many guys try to date right away ( like after the first message or two), but that's not me.
But back to the types of women: I just can't stomach arrogance or inflated ego, and OLD seems saturated with people who possess those two qualities.
Mark Zuckerberg - net worth 34.3 Billion, and his wife, Priscilla. She's an attractive woman - there are better pictures of her, everybody can clean up. I chose one where they look average. In the looks department alone she's not particularly special (although I bet she's a great person and very smart - she's a doctor and accomplished in her own right). They were dating for 9 years before they got married in 2012, so before Facebook when he was just a student. There is no doubt much more to their relationship than money. They were broken up for a while in 2007 and Zuckerberg supposedly dated some student from Berkeley although it's not clear if that actually happened.
There he is, obviously younger, with some girl... I just googled "Zuckerberg girl." It may be his sister for all I know but again she's attractive but no Ms. Universe. She looks normal.
But still, I've dated way hotter and I have a lot less than 34 billion. Money is not everything. The most physically attractive women I ever dated were when I was pretty much broke.
For an Asian woman, she is quite voluptuous.
And they make a cute couple. Her ethnic features contrast nicely with his Nordic/Scandanavian? features.
Men are less likely to agree on what is considered "attractive" whereas as women tend to be of a more similar mind when evaluating male attractiveness.
Because of this, most women in OLD will get at least SOME attention. If you're short and petite, medium height and thick or a taller BBW, you'll have men trying to message you. The fact that a woman turns down the men, doesn't mean she lacks options. The odds are good, but the goods are odd. She has options, but just doesn't like them. Sometimes the reasons are legitimate and other times the reasoning is based on a pure lack of attraction based on minor issues like being a couple of inches too short or having the wrong hair color. Not liking your options is different than not having options.
I really hate to generalize about an entire gender, but I have to say that most women on dating sites take it very seriously, and it's not about attention. They are genuinely looking to meet someone. You can tell right away.
I hope my generalization won't get me into trouble, and I hope I haven't offended any women here.
Regarding the OP: OLD simply magnifies the experiences you come across in the real world because of the ease which you can browse people.
Women getting hit on by creeps? Expect that x100 online.
Men getting blown off? Expect that x100 online.
..etc.
Is it an "over abundance"? That boils down to whether or not the user can handle it. But if it's too much, they always have the option to log off.
I'd be overwhelmed.
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Sucks for them, right?
