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I can see a woman getting jealous if you had to go old school and slam the ham to get another woman preggers, but to do the surrogate thing and be jealous or whatever seems odd.
Plus the legal documents are drawn up so that the surrogate doesn't have any parental rights whatsoever, that's an automatic deal right there, so that worry is silly.
I thought so too, but in many cases the surrogate gets some rights.
A loy of times with a surrogate, they take the infertile womans eggs, and the mans sperm, and put them in the host woman.
True and other cases the egg is donated and implanted into a surrogate uterus.
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In those days, it was different. Often, women who couldn't conceive were abandoned. So allowing the husband to have a child with another woman, and bring that child into the home, would have been one way to keep the husband. However, in those days, they also had no way of knowing whether it was the man or the woman who couldn't conceive. The husband could end up having a rude awakening, if he discovered he was the one impeding the couple's fertility.
And of course it was always the woman's fault. Can you imagine saying the husband could have sex with someone else? Often the wife knew he was having sex.
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There are many children of different ages who need to be adopted by a loving couple...
Agreed and I'd love to adopt an older child.
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Hmmm like Sarah?
Yep and Jacob's wives who had kids then their slaves who were their half sisters.
I thought so too, but in many cases the surrogate gets some rights.
Well... I'm not a lawyer, so I can't argue the details... but on a level I can see someone being a little hesitant, just in case they litigate and if anything there's a small potential for that... IDK.....
To the OP: Much better to adopt in my opinion if there's any doubt or hesitancy.
As I age, I am finding my feelings on this whole topic area have changed significantly. The only consistency I see with what I wrote in college decades ago (I happen to have some interesting "take a stand" papers, one of which is on this topic), is that ultimately you and your partner need to make a decision that you both can and will live with whether you have the children yourself, adopt, or if there's a surrogate or donated sperm. Having children is a serious thing, and with divorce rates what they are, you need to really think through things as much as possible as early as possible. You cannot plan for every contingency, but if you can identify points of contention early on and work to resolve them you can potentially set yourself up for a happier and more enduring marriage.
To the OP: Much better to adopt in my opinion if there's any doubt or hesitancy.
As I age, I am finding my feelings on this whole topic area have changed significantly. The only consistency I see with what I wrote in college decades ago (I happen to have some interesting "take a stand" papers, one of which is on this topic), is that ultimately you and your partner need to make a decision that you both can and will live with whether you have the children yourself, adopt, or if there's a surrogate or donated sperm. Having children is a serious thing, and with divorce rates what they are, you need to really think through things as much as possible as early as possible. You cannot plan for every contingency, but if you can identify points of contention early on and work to resolve them you can potentially set yourself up for a happier and more enduring marriage.
It wasn't about me and my boyfriend, it was hypothetical. Actually I've been reading about Abraham and Sarah in their bible. In our case we have decided if we can't have kids we'll adopt or not at all.
Actually, Henry VIII had a son with Jane Seymour. Edward VI was crowned at age 10 upon Henry's death and reigned until his death at age 15.
Mary I (Catherine) and Elizabeth I (Anne). Lots of infants who were stillborn.
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In the bible there isn't. I heard of this trend where people have sex so a child will result and one of the parents isn't responsible. Just bizarre.
Perhaps it's acceptable now, since when it was first written, artificial insemination wasn't practiced. Of course it could just be convenience to not update that part of the Bible.......lol
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